Losing erection before penetration

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by SADMANN, May 3, 2019.

  1. SADMANN

    SADMANN Fapstronaut

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    I haven’t been more into porn. But I’m a masturbation addict. I tried sex twice and failed. I was all erect till I tried to put it in.
    * I was not nervous the first time
    * I have been masturbating 2-3x a day since I was 15 and now I’m 20.
    * my question is, did I train my dick badly by excessive masturbation which is causing ED?
    * I got medical check ups and the reports came is perfectly fine
     
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  2. Sounds about right. Stop masturbating and see how it goes after you have given it time.
     
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  3. SADMANN

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    How many days do you prefer?
     
  4. You should start noticing change in a few weeks, but start with a month and see where you are. 90 days is the standard.
     
  5. SADMANN

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    How do I know if it’s changing? I already get boners perfectly. Just not firm enough while penetration
     
  6. Seattle guy

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    From the first time that happened for me I have not gotten over the fear of failure. I'm new just joined and I might find some peace to over come that fear. Also, I have long history of related to fear of intimacy male or female. That was something I never experienced for my first 18 years.
     
  7. SADMANN

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    I guess that’s just Perfomance anxiety
     
  8. mik555

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    I believe what you have is called the "death grip". that means you are used to the grip of our hand on our penis that nothing else can compete. I had the same problem, but if you get into the journey it will take less than a month to cure it. Personal experience.
     
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  9. glide

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    I understand because my erection wasn't very strong before I started the reset. Also I wouldn't just get an erection in the morning like I used to. Now I'm 4 days in and I can feel my erection being stronger and I'm hard in the morning. I just hope I can last a hole month since I never did something like this before
     
  10. SADMANN

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    I’m on nofap for 3 days. Do you think it gets fine? If I stay on nofap for 90 days
     
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  12. JesusStrength

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    This is kind if happening to me now, but I also don't have a libido. A girl got naked in front of me and I had to masturbate myself to get it up and then went in and got soft. I had to make something up then my dick got hard again and I said this is it. I took her again went inside my dick was hard felt it going soft and came fast. Somebody explain?
     
  13. SADMANN

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    As I have read other posts, it’s death grip which causes Ed. Another guy ended up getting okay by abstaining from PMO for 19 days. So yeah it’s possible.
     
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  14. AngeZarate10

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    don't masturbate.
     
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  15. aerokus

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    This is textbook stuff. Recovery will take you between a few weeks to potentially 3+ months, depending on the level of your addiction (and some of it just depends on you as an individual).

    It's much easier to get it over and done with as soon as you can, no relapses, I let it ruin sex for me for 5 years and I regret that immensely. I've only just managed to fix it.
     
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  16. overclocked

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    Yeah, typical symptom. Just follow all the steps and you will be good.
     
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  17. SADMANN

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    Bro how many days did it take you to recover?
     
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  18. SADMANN

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    Thank you so much, you brothers make me feel better
     
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  19. aerokus

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    On this current streak it went away at 44 days. But my porn consumption in the whole of 2019 has been pretty low, I only relapsed once briefly.
     
  20. I had/have this problem. The issue is that it can be a self-fulfilling thing, in so much as once it's happened a few times, you begin to worry that you won't ever be able to perform, which makes you even less likely to get an erection. For me, I think it was a case of porn addiction and performance anxiety, so I've had to tackle both problems head on.

    I've completely given up porn, and I no longer masturbate solo. I still orgasm, but only when I'm with my girlfriend and she pleases me now. The solution for me was to stop looking at porn and stop masturbating, but also to be honest with my partner. It was scary, but I just told her everything: about my porn addiction and about my inability to get erections. She was actually really good with me.

    I also went to the doctor to get a full health check-up. While I didn't think it was likely, it was good to rule out the possibility of an underlying medical condition so I could focus on the psychological problems I was having. The doctor prescribed me pills which have given me more confidence, and abstaining from porn has meant that I'm starting to see more random erections/morning wood again.

    I still have a way to go, but I definitely feel I'm on the right track now. I wish you luck with your journey, too. Try not to worry -- you'll be okay if you make the right lifestyle adjustments and maintain a positive attitude.
     
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