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losing interest after working to get them

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by anony mous, Dec 19, 2015.

  1. Dec 19, 2015 #1
    anony mous

    anony mous Fapstronaut

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    i often find myself wanting to talk and approach a certain girl and id work the guts to do so - only in uni- and get to know her. Then id spend time getting to know her better and better all the while so interested in her and then the moment i feel like she is also interested in me whether by suggestions or you know sexual tension i get automatically turned off and i lose complete interest and just dont find the girl so pretty and interesting anymore. anyone knows why? or can take a guess?

    My theories: the girls i usually get the guts to approach and pursue romantically are from the 5-8 range and they often reciprocate maybe the girls that grow interested in me are not all that pretty and the initial thrill of seduction masks that so when it goes away i get bored?

    second theory: often a girl is cold and distant cause shes playing hard to get however, once she likes you and feels safe she no longer is cold and distant as a matter of fact she feels so safe with you she just acts so naturally and maybe natural acting of the girls i get is annoying
    Ps i get really annoyed when someone is too needy
     
    anony mous, Dec 19, 2015
    anony mous, Dec 19, 2015
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  2. Dec 21, 2015 #2
    R92B

    R92B Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

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    It's human nature to want what you can't have, but for this to be a frequent occurrence for you is a little strange. If you're PMO'ing, it may have an influence on your perception of women in terms of holding unrealistically high expectations of them.
     
    R92B, Dec 21, 2015
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  3. Dec 21, 2015 #3
    Empowered

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    I dig your point about neediness, had a similar thought today. It's improbable that every girl you encounter becomes needy though.
    Another theory would be that your self esteem has risen a lot and you only met girls who you think don't deserve you.
    Or maybe you're at a flatline-like point where your interest in sex is low and you just want to check if you can conquer them.
     
    Empowered, Dec 21, 2015
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