I agree it’s very hard to reboot while in a relationship. If you are already in one then that’s one thing. Please also know that many men no matter their age or level of sexual experience have some form of ED the first time they have sex with a new partner. Most often PE but I’ve also seen DE and ED. You are nervous and so are we.we ladies can just hide it better. Don’t think you are going to have sex like a P star the first time you are with a new partner or that she expects you to! And your other guy friends who tell you that they do are most likely liars. It’s funny the stories we ladies tell our female friends about first time sex with guys versus the story the same guy tells his male friend. I’m 40 been having sex with men since age 16 trust me. That being said when the ED continues beyond the first few times in whatever form then it does start to become a problem. ED and DE make us think you don’t find us attractive. PE makes us wonder if it will ever get better.