Loss of erection right before penetration

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Maverick47, Sep 22, 2019.

  1. Maverick47

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    Throughout the last few years I have dealt with loss of erection right before I penetrate the woman I was with. We would kiss, caress, oral, etc, However, right when I knew it was time for me to make my move I would start to lose my erection. Especially if it took a little struggle to get it inside of her. If I managed to penetrate it would usually die down pretty quick. I have also dealt with the issue of not being able to get an erection while initiating sex.

    I want to know is this a result of watching too much porn? Is this a case of PIED?
     
  2. MuscularSherlockHolmes

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    I suppose it is. Get some medical opinion too. It might be something else, better make sure.
     
  3. Maverick47

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    Can't be a medical issue. If I'm getting an erection while being sexually active, but as soon as I'm about to penetrate I go soft it's got to be something mental. I'm just curious if anyone here in the community has been through this
     
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  4. WWW1974

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    I have dealt with this issue. It was definitely related to porn. Could get and maintain erections when watching porn but sex with wife was a disaster. After 8 months of little to no porn, it is better.
     
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  5. RamboErecto

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    You use a condom? it brings me a lot of troubles with that as well.
     
  6. BravelyKegger

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    with my old gf when she gave me head i would get like half soft.
     
  7. Bodybuilderpal

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    its all in the mind and its psychological....dont think about it too much....you are thinking too much that it will loose erection when you are doing sex and it does....you yourself said that in foreplay and oral , there are no issues...its only when you want to penetrate... don't think about it and do meditation...use l arginine or citrulline malate for stronger erections and atleast quit porn for 30 days
     
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  8. bluemax4

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    This a common side effect of watching porn. As Gary Wilson says, try abstaining from it for a few months and then you'll know if it's porn related or if you have a medical issue.
     
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  9. Ball3r

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    It all depends on how heavy your porn use was (what content you watched to get you hard etc). To me it sounds like a case of PIED, but like I said, it all depends on how much porn you watched/how frequently, and what you watched. I agree with @Bodybuilderpal too, seems like it could just be psychological and you're over thinking it. Envision yourself as a confident man who is good at sex (even if you're not), your brain will start to rewire and feel convinced (this can take time so be patient). I have personally experienced performance anxiety with sex, especially when I was about to sleep with a 10/10 girl and get nervous. Practice confidence meditation, it can help rewire your thinking patterns immensely.
     
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  10. Kexas23

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    Sounds like PIED to me. happens to me whenever I'm not abstaining.
     
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  11. Maverick47

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    Thanks to everyone who answered. It means a lot!
     
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  12. Maverick47

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    I am very good at sex. I can remember all the compliments I received from the very start of my sex life. I am attractive. I have many good qualities. I am a blessed man. I'm very fortunate. But after facing several occasions of a soft dick right before penetration my sexual confidence has been diminished. Just because I'm scared of going soft and it always happens. I know it's not medical. I know this. I just wonder is my anxiety so strong that it happens every time or is it just PIED? Certainly I have some anxiety after several occasions of it happening (LOL), but it can't be that 100%. I have been with a girl and fully confident due to becoming very comfortable and the dick is just not awake. So, it must be PIED.

    Again, I am incredibly healthy. I know 100% it's not a medical thing.
     
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  13. WWW1974

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    Porn sucks and impacts our ability to perform. Stay focused on your reboot and it comes back. It's worth it
     
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  14. Maverick47

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    thanks!
     
  15. WWW1974

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    @Maverick47. Feel free to pm with any questions about PIED
     
  16. Klici

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    It's very common. I used some magic pills for very first times.
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  17. Maverick47

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    They didn't work for me. Because I have no blood flow issues. It's all in my head. So, they're useless for me.
     
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  18. RamboErecto

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    I use pills and it works for me. Still cant have an orgasm trough penetration but at least I can enjoy the sex.
     
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  19. WWW1974

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    What do you take???
     
  20. RamboErecto

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    Viagra. Is called "Tadalafilo" in my country, 20 mg. I just take half pill.
     

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