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Lost a friend

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SlayerofDarkness, Dec 15, 2021.

  1. SlayerofDarkness

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    I have told some guys and girls about this. The guys seemed welcoming about it. As for the girls, they range from the fact that they were ok, but they did not want me telling others about this to basically blocking me for talking about my problem. These girls are strictly platonic, so I just want to be honest with them. What should I do now moving forward?
     
  2. SlayerofDarkness

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    I have tried apologizing but she said that I was inappropriate, and I should never talk to her ever again.
     
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  3. DeeJ4y

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    What did you do?
     
  4. SlayerofDarkness

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    All I said was that I have a porn addiction for 9 years and I need lots of help and support.
     
  5. DeeJ4y

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    Yeah thats creepy haha. Not making fun of your addiction but it is kind of taboo, especially to talk to female friends. Of course there are lot of different settings but message like that can be misunderstood easily and I think it is what happened. What sort of support did you want from her? You have support here. Most people do pmo and will not be a good support since they do not see what is wrong with it. Try to move on from that, I think it is not worth to sulk over it too much. Try to learn something from this experience.
     
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  6. SlayerofDarkness

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    Ok, I did not mean to come off like that.
     
  7. DeeJ4y

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    I know. Stay strong.
     
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  8. SlayerofDarkness

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    It was motivational support
     
  9. SlayerofDarkness

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    After all that, she told me to never contact her and i did since January 2021
     
  10. DeeJ4y

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    you have not contacted since january or what do you mean?
     
  11. Don't worry about it.
    You should first focus on yourself and your recovery.
    Share your story only with somebody you really trust. Porn addiction is a huge impure thing that can scare people away.

    Try to talk to a professional helper instead. That will gonna help you much more.
     
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  12. SlayerofDarkness

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    I have not talked to her since January 2021
     
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  13. SlayerofDarkness

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    I did recently and she helped out but i still feel some guilt
     
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  14. SlayerofDarkness

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    What can I do to move on?
     
  15. DeeJ4y

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    what do you mean by moving on?
     
  16. She wasn't that great a friend if she dropped you just like that. Did you know her long? If you weren't that close and you said that then she might be wondering what the hell.

    Look for support on here or with a really close friend. Friends that are more in the acquaintance category, I would not tell them as they would probably avoid you.
     
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  17. Rostrock47

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    I'm sorry, but you should never discuss these kind of problems with girls as most of them are very unaware of this pmo thing specially because its mostly men's problem and not women's problem...
     
  18. SlayerofDarkness

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    I learned the hard way.
     
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  19. SlayerofDarkness

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    So, will this impact my life and career for the rest of my life?
     
  20. SlayerofDarkness

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    Moving on from what happened with her
     

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