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I've been an addict for a long time, i lied to my wife all the time, never realizing that the lies hurt her. Right now I'm doing really well. My wife and I have sex a lot now. He has to want to quit. I can't say I am completely healed, but I havnt orgasmed on my own in about 110 days. I come on here and read post from hurt significant others and it hurts me to know I hurt my wife and all of you hurt. I also have some of my apps locked and my wfie has the passcode to prevent me from doing bad things. If he wants it he can change its not your fault

 

I don't believe it's low labito I used to say I'm tired and it's just not working, but it was because I jerked off to much. I think you have to give him an ultimatum, you or the porn and one of you is leaving. I try very hard not to watch porn, I've fallen aling the way but I'm doing so much better now. He has to want it for himself, he cant do it for you. They do have porn addict meetings he can go to. For me it didn't hit me untill I myself realized I had a problem and it hit me hard.

 

When I did it, I really didn't think I was doing anything wrong. I didn't know I was hurting my wife, too me it wasn't cheating. But she showed me how it feels through her side. I come on to the spouse support to remind me the damage it can cause and to not do it. Right now I'm like 115 days clean. He won't stop if he doesn't think he has a problem, I myself realized it and now I put saftey guards on my phone to keep me away from the bad stuff. I can't go on incognito mode on my browser, I locked myself out of the Google play store, and out of my settings on my phone. I want to be better than I was for myself and then for my family. Being an addict can be hard because my brain would tell me I need the pmo, and it drove me nuts until I did it. I'm doing so much better now but it took a lot of work on my end. There is nothing wrong with you. And he is dedfinently not the victim .