Love and PMO

Something I've noticed on my own experience with NoFap, just wondering if anyone else has come to the same conclusions...........I dont know what day Im on at the moment, I did complete the 90 days before christmas and things have evolved a lot since I started. I noticed that the urge to PMO was rarely sexual and from there I started to tune into when I did feel the urge. It was most of the time, when I felt stressed, wound up or alone. So then I did some research and read up about "Attunment" between mother and baby and how the level of attunment is responsible for the ability of a child to self regulate and self soothe. Basically if you didnt get what you needed(love, affection, validation etc)from your primary care giver, then your regulation was all over the place or even non-existent. Then I looked into ways that you can heal this and learn to self regulate. Not something that has a magic bullet solution, which sucks, but it definitely can be healed with practice every day. Tuning in, breathing fully and accepting everything that comes up works for me. Every day its getting stronger and stronger and I can handle a lot more now without resorting to PMO or other forms of unhealthy means of soothing.
What I also noticed is that love really is the ultimate self regulator. I noticed those times when I felt loved that my entire body would be calm and relax and shit just wouldnt matter or bother me so much. But unconditional love is not so easy to come by. I mean if you have it then my friend you are very fortunate, but I do realise that not everyone is so lucky. But what I found was that the power of loving yourself is equal to, or even greater than the power of love you get from someone else. If you are not used to loving yourself(which everyone on here isnt otherwise they wouldnt be here)then this is something that takes practice. But when it does start to click, you have this feeling of warmth from within that is very calming for the nervous system. I think to really fully crack this you need to learn to regulate from within and to also create a foundation of self love and self care from which you can build that self soothing.