Lust and anxiety

Attraction is not a choice, if she likes you, she likes you.. age, religions, politics are generally not going to be an issue at least to go out and have fun for a couple of nigths.

You are confident but not confident enough to approach her. It's really easy, if she is into you she is going to make it easy for you to talk to her, if not she is not going to give you the time a day. If she look at you and put herself close to you in the gym is her way to make it easy for you to talk to her. next time this happens just tell her something.. and see if she avoid you or take that opportunity to enage with you in conversation.
Worst case scenario.. she avoid you and guess what? that's it! nobody in the history die from rejection. And you are going to be happy that you had the ball to say at least "Hi" to her.

 

I'd say it's simple, but not easy.... particularly if you get anxiety from the idea. But there's no avoiding taking that leap if you want to get with a girl.

 

I heard once that you don't gauge based on how a woman initially responds to you, you go by if/how the response CHANGES.

For example, a new hottie has started in your office. You walk by behind her cube, say Hi, and stop so she knows you want to engage. What you ideally want of course is for her to drop whatever she's doing, pivot 180 degrees in her chair and give you her full attention. When that happens it's an incredible feeling. But it might go more like, she says Hi back but keeps looking at her screen, you ask a question (about her) and she still doesn't turn but gives you a longer answer. You ask a follow up question and THEN she starts turning, gives you eye contact, maybe will even close out her screen or do something to indicate she's ok with you hanging around for a bit. And you take it from there. Now on the other hand if you've gotten 3 one-word answers in a row and she hasn't shifted her body position at all, she is clearly shutting you out and it's best you moved on. (Or the picture she has prominently displayed of her obvious husband/bf is a good thing to note too.) Engage, observe, calibrate, escalate (or not, depending).

 

When you're young, the best thing to do is to spin plates. At your age, women close to your age will be very flighty and volatile. Do not heavily invest in them. Work on school, getting a career.