So my primary focus is abstaining from Porn. For me, porn includes any artificial sexual stimulation, so it's pretty broad. I have to do this or I slip back into compulsive use. I'm trying to figure out whether masturbation to fantasy of my wife is appropriate for me or not. The pros are that our sex life is pretty infrequent and at least I'm being "faithful" in fantasy to my partner. The cons are objectifying her, projecting darker fantasies onto her, and risks of this becoming a dopamine slippery slope. My brain loves intense and compulsive focus, and I can tell there are desires to channel my porn struggles into almost a fetish towards my wife. Part of me says this is a bad idea, part says this is "much better" than the porn and at least gives me an outlet for now. Any thoughts or experiences are appreciated!