Make fun of me bcoz i deserve it...

JustLeave07

JustLeave07

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I am back with another post and one more time I am begging in front
of you guys for some tips , I am not being able to follow anything what
wisdom you all suggest like meditation , cold showers etc.

I had joined this site two - three weeks ago and I took the 21 Day challenge
but failed on the 7 th day , (Which was actually my longest streak),
I thought now I am motivated enough and now I can go on longer streaks
but the things didn't went that should have been , I have relapsed two times
in last 3 day and now I am feeling worthless.

Now the situation has gone deadly worse and I have promised myself to start
once again and this time I will do more struggle.
I promise to all and me.

THAT'S IT FOR NOW THANKS FOR READING.
 
Understand something. This takes a lot of time and persistence. A lot. This is not something any single person here has ever beat their first try I can promise you that.

Focus on growth, not on streaks, and you will be all the better for it. And stop shaming yourself that’s like adding gasoline to the fire. Focus your attention on your growth and forgive yourself. Good luck to you
 
Hello JustLeave07
I completely understand that ups & downs with motivation... I would even bet we all know it:
after relapse you feel really shitty and promise a positive change but after a few days ... convincing that "it's last time", "just taking a look" etc.
I even happen to relapse after a few hours !
From my observation the worst part is so strong urge to make it last time. You are actually going to use it as an excuse before next relapse ("Now it's really last time")!
Relapse is normal part of the process (I'm going through 2-3 weeks streaks, really struggling to achieve more, but hey, at least I'm epxerienced in good relapsing ;) ) - just focus on the current day. Don't think about previous lapses or days to come - assume just today you won't watch.
By the way - have you tried finding an accountability partner?
 
+ Completely agree with NamaClature14 - public shaming is not a solution, maybe just some sort of penance... Even worse if your addiction has some emotional foundations - then it's not going to help
 
I most certainly will not make fun of you. 7 days is a good first start, now pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back to it!

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Adding to what WooshyBooshy said - you should consider factors like: emotional stress, social anxiety, feeling lonely, misisng other things to do, no other ways to relax. They are only couple of them and I don't know your personal situation but just consider what in your life is not quite right. Fixing such matters will surely help in tackling PMO problem.
 
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