I'll repeat some of my intro stuff here, just for context (see here). 32yo, Male, Christian, Married-with-kids. After 10 years of marriage, I'm realizing that my growing discontentment with our sex life lays mostly, if not fully, on my shoulders. My addiction to PMO has damaged my girlfriend-now-wife's confidence and self-esteem, as well as perverting my view of healthy sexuality. For so long I thought, "if only she would just put-out more, I could be happy". All the while, I wasn't dealing with my own perspective and making positive changes (besides infrequent streaks of being PMO-free, which is really just getting back to 'neutral', isn't it?). My reboot goals are: 90 days PM-free Increase non-sexual interaction with my wife (or if sexual, then O is not expected) Don't pressure wife for sex nor expect it Don't be resentful when "not getting enough" or when wife isn't up to it I'm on day 14 right now. So far, no trouble with avoiding PM, but still struggling with tugs of resentment. I keep repeating the mantra "I don't need sex to be happy".