Making posts won't help you

yup i once read that from experts that it's much easier to replace habits than eliminate them

 

I agree with you.

 

Willpower by itself is useless. If it was, we wouldn't need support groups and coping methods. One of the main reasons that pornography is, in my opinion, the leading addiction among men is that it 1) isolates the victim, 2) imitates and pretends to be a stand-in for the deepest, most passionate parts of our heart, and 3) hammers us where we are weak, each and every time, without fail, relentlessly.

1) Isolation. Even for those of us who admit that pornography is wrong and destructive, it's a highly sensitive issue. We want to avoid coming out of the proverbial closet and admitting openly that we're an addict. The shame, guilt, and difficulty in explaining ourselves (and especially the torment that often follows upon informing a significant other) tends to lead most men to isolate the addiction (and by association, themselves) from any other support they might need. Of course, as the old saying goes, "No man is an island"; a lone man is a defeated man.

2. Subversion. Every man (when in tune with a heart that is whole, not scarred, broken, and turned to stone) deeply yearns for the comfort, companionship, friendship, and intimacy that comes from a female mate - their designed counterpart. Pornography imitates this in a sick sort of way, playing off of a pure desire men have but corrupting the whole process and destroying and hope the men might have of actually finding or enjoying what they truly want. It's a fucked up little cycle.

3. Weakness. It hits us where we're the weakest. We have no power to resist when we're alone, hungry, tired, or hurt. If we had willpower enough to resist, in these situations we're a mere breeze away from tipping over the precipice.

 

"Exemples of powerful routines: Cold showers, meditation, working out, EATING HEALTHY, spending at least 15 minutes to an hour on your inner self (reading or listening to personnal developpement, practicing gratitude etc..) starting new hobbies etc..."

I agree completely, I have been doing all of this and more New element here is accountability that comes with this forum. I am very grateful for it and for you, guys.

Ad habits: I recommend the book of Stephen Covey Seven Habits of Highly Efficient People.

 

Ermh, I agree with your first announcement, it's pissing me off so much too, but I don't believe that you shouldn't write a journal or post here in order to reboot. My journal here and the most views of all journals ever here when I had one. It had 48 pages or hurricane thoughts, and I swear on God that it saved my streak, therefore my soul, more than once.

Come on the hell on. I didn't made it to 250 days by relapsing. SPAM REMOVED (spam code #001) - REPORT TO MODERATION. It was hard as fuck, it still is sometimes, but using the excuse of "I'll never do it again if I relapse" is making my mind puke. If you think there's a possibility to relapse, you'll relapse. Because you want to. All relapses are intentional. All, absolutely all in my opinions. If you accidentally stumble upon something that makes your dick hard or your cunt wet, and it happened countless times for me, then IS IT A DAMN EXCUSE?????? Seriously???? HINT: fuck no. You want to quit or you don't want to quit. No other way.

 

Rebooting is rather easy when things in your life are going well. As soon as it gets complicated, you start hearing your "addictive voice" again. At least that is my case.

I agree that making posts where you complain about your life or where you commit yourself to "never again relapsing" just after a relapse are useless, but I think that this process is hard, because you have to keep focus at all times, you can never let your guard down.

 

I think people need to make the distinction between MO and PMO, and also realize rebooting is not about the last time you did either, but about the frequency you have been doing it within a certain time frame. That is why people fail more often than not- they think they are there counter.

 

Sorry, but could someone explain the difference in definition between "PMO" and "MO" ?
Thanks.

Cyril Wohrer

 

PMO= to achieve orgasm masturbating using pornography.
MO= to achieve orgasm masturbating without the use of pornography.

 

That's true. I relapsed twice after 101 days, but I returned here because I said to myself "you know what? 101 days being sober is pretty impressive nonetheless". But if you think that "you're back to zero", you actually go back to zero, watching porn everyday, because "what's the difference?". But there's a whole lot of difference between masturbating everyday and masturbating once every three months.

Note: I'm not advertising for the use of MO, as I want it out of my life completely.