Managed to stop masturbation, but how do you stop fapping?

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  1. ThePeakWae

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    Kinda curious on this, managed to abstain on Porn and Masturbation, but still cant completely avoid fapping. Does Meditation help?
     
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  2. WildEntheology

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    Meditation absolutely helps, when it's done in the right way of course. I'll post a technique that I love that is specifically designed around dealing with sexual energy/arousal. One question though, how often do you fap? Do you experience any sexual dysfunctions because of it?

    Here's the technique, do this every time you feel an urge:
    1. Open yourself to your body, briefly scan it from head to toe.
    2. Identify the hot point in your body, usually the penis, sometimes the nipples. Might be different for you so don't close yourself.
    3. Begin using your breath to move this "energy" or "heat" around the body
    4. With the inhale, imagine that this energy is moving with the breath from that hot point down into one of your feet
    5. With the exhale, imagine that this energy and the muscular tension within the leg are moving out of your leg and out your mouth
    6. Repeat this with the same leg once more
    7. Repeat this 2x with the other leg, your stomach, each side of your chest, each arm, your neck, and your head
    8. Then, with each inhale imagine that the energy in the hot point is swelling, and with each exhale that energy exits your mouth
    9. Repeat step 8 until you find that the urge to give in has left you
    This is a great process for learning to not only manipulate sexual energy, but also to accept and be okay with the sexual energy. As porn addicts we often begin to vilify, demonize, and reject our own arousal and sexuality. This is not the path to healthy sexuality, this is simply the path to another form of sexual pathology. Rather than having a frenetic sexual energy, we instead have a suppressed sexual energy.

    The path out of addiction is to learn to love and embrace arousal. Learn how to be okay simply being aroused without needing to act on that arousal. As I said, the process I explained above allows us to take our power back from our arousal. Rather than being at the whim of our arousal, our arousal is at our whim.
     
  3. ThePeakWae

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    I sometimes feel my nipples itchy does it have to do with sexual energy? Always thought it was allergy or growth by testosterone thing!
     
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    It could be either itch or arousal. Nipples sometimes itch. Other times it could just be that you're aroused or feeling an urge, in which case they may become more sensitive in a sexual way.
     
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  5. IGY

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    Masturbation = fapping!
     
  6. ThePeakWae

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    B*** the Gap is huge, when I started my nofap journey I couldnt stop masturbation urges consecutively, now I can do it.

    Problem is Fapping = Orgasms and can lead me back to masturbating precious nutrients! The Risk is still high even if I can tame the masturbation urges, so I need dat "Next Level" training tips.
     
  7. IGY

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    I do not know what B*** means. No fapping may or may not end in orgasms. Fapping = masturbation. That's it.
     
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  8. WildEntheology

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    I think he is defining masturbation as "masturbation and porn" and fapping as "masturbation without porn."
     
  9. ThePeakWae

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    No I define it as having the death grip and still having creative porn like fantasies in my head, I'm a creative person, so it's a bigger problem than I thought!

    Havent fallen back into masturbation case I can hold off the urges now, but the other things are still a deterrent to my life, pls help!
     
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  10. WildEntheology

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    Oh okay I see, that makes a lot of sense. Yeah just that meditation practice I shared will definitely help you deal with urges you have to fap.
     
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    Yeah been noticing, some people here can meditate for 10 minutes 24/7 whereas I can only do it for 5 minutes, that may be part of the issue.
     
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    It definitely takes practice! If you follow the link in my signature you can find the second most recent episode where we talk about meditation. Basically the thing that makes it so difficult for people is that they think their meditation has to look like something special or they have to clear their mind completely. The first step on the path to mastering meditation is realizing that you can't clear your head.

    I have gone 60+ days in a row meditating for an hour and very rarely did my mind stay completely clear for longer than a few seconds. That comes with a lot of practice or it can happen on meditation retreats. I'm hoping to go to one for 10 days next summer. You basically spend 12 hours/day meditating the entire time haha. It's going to be...fun... :')
     
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  13. IGY

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    Fap definition and meaning | Collins English Dictionary (collinsdictionary.com)

    VERB
    Word forms: faps, fapping or fapped(intransitive)
    vulgar, slang

    to masturbate
     
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    You are helping him, which is great. But it is confusing as hell if individuals redefine words commonly used on the site.
     
  16. Usernameallowed

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    It could also be estrogen
     
  17. ThePeakWae

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    Bro, the white fluids arent c*ming out, anymore (Fixed that urge), the orgasms (internal no fluids out) and the Death grip still there, despite no Porn, case my creativity is still enabling through fantasies.

    Basically I managed to keep the sperm inside mah body, but still have the urge problems related to death grip and Porn fantasies despite watching none anymore.
     
    Last edited: Oct 24, 2021
  18. ThePeakWae

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    Havent been drinking soy milk for ages.
     
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  19. PrioritySystem

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    Do you have long SR streaks with this method?
     
  20. WildEntheology

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    Long SR streaks? I'm not familiar with SR.
     

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