Pardon my lack of response to all points, specially those addressing me: this thread isn't about me. But the following question is worth everyone's consideration. Do you have a requirement to love her if she has not reciprocated your love? Suppose you were, as in the case of a gentleman posting here recently, in the situation where your wife never wanted to have sex with you. Is sex part of the marriage covenant? Most people would feel it is. If you were in a sexless marriage, would you still be required to love your wife? If so, upon what basis? And if not, why not just seek a divorce? If the wife has no requirement to respect her husband, why not just get a divorce? Why would you wish to remain with someone you don't love or respect? And what is it that the typical marriage vows say? While there are many versions, and not all will read this way, the first one listed under marriage vows in Wikipedia, a Catholic vow, says this: "I, ____, take you, ____, to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honour you all the days of my life." Love and honour. But perhaps you and others here never pledged to honor your spouse, so you're off the hook. Friend, you may say you don't feel your wife is obliged to respect you. It is true that respect is better earned than commanded. But respect is more nuanced than this dichotomy would suggest, and it can be deserved without being either earned or commanded. One should respect his or her parents, regardless. And one should respect one's spouse.