Some are old, some are new. There are things he will disclose to me that he can't get himself out of. I dont blame him for the dream, I'm fully aware that it is beyond his control. It is the betrayal trauma that causes the reaction to anger. I'm waiting for him to tell me more, which puts me in an angry defensive state of mind. After working through my anger, we were able to get to the bottom of these reoccurring dreams which has to do with some past trauma he experienced. He came to me about the dream because he understands there is a reason they continue. As far as randomly noticing a woman, yes, he would disclose that to me as well, but he would do so to tell me about his progress with his reactions after noticing the woman. Going forward, he has an accountability partner now. The only time he should disclose something to me is after telling the accountability partner and still having trouble getting out of it. Otherwise, he need only tell me about relapses, deliberate actions, or if I ask him about something and he lies about it, he needs to make that right as well.