Last night my husband and I were talking. I was telling him about a friend of mine that I've known for over 10 years, messaged me on Facebook the other day because he wondered if I knew of anyone him and his boys could help on Christmas. I started to talk about how I knew this man, which was through cubscouts when my boys were smaller, and how we became friends when I told him about my marriage to my ex and how abusive it was. During the separation and divorce proceedings, my friend had given me his phone number as a contact to reach should my ex husband come to my house and try and harm me. This guy was also the only one that stood up for me when I was being sexually harassed by other members of the troop we were involved in, and these other members had been friends with the guy for many years longer than I had been. As the years past, this guy and I talked less and less. He met someone and got married and restricted our conversations to basically nothing because his wife asked him to remove me from Facebook. He said he didn't want to remove me, but quit talking to me to keep her happy. It was not a big deal on my end because the last thing I wanted to do is come in between a couple. A few years pass, and that is when I met my husband and remarried. During this story, my husband says to me "well, if you two get together anytime soon and hit it off, I wish the two of you the best". I later asked him why he said what he did. He told me that he felt jealous that I spoke about memories of this guy in a way that made me seem excited and upbeat, and considering how much he has hurt me over the years, he didn't feel as though I would ever see him in that same light. I wonder if this is something all men struggle with or just ones who have betrayed their partners. I did not intend to make him feel bad when I talked about my friend, and I feel a bit guilty for it. My friend sends me a video to watch via Facebook every now and again, but we don't actually carry on with a conversation anymore. I was actually surprised he contacted me about the Christmas thing because he is now dating someone else, and he keeps his contact with me cut off when he is with someone. Should I not talk to this person anymore? Or should I just let it be and let my husband work through this? Those are the questions for the day.