GOOD JOB! Good job with everything: the phone the purging, back in the guest room...the rest. Good job. I think I would be very open with her and let her know that you are committed only to have sex with her. That means no O except with her. But I wouldn't push for anything from her right now. You've been treating your sexuality as your personal plaything instead of something that God gave you to share with her. But you can say "I need your help, and having some sex with you could help, but I am at your mercy." Humility is what is required. Putting yourself under her, instead of going off and doing your own thing. And I think if you are open, honest, and humble the relationship will heal up faster than if you try to be proud and strong, etc. Forget that. You aren't strong, and you have nothing to be proud of. Are you in church? Maybe commit to going with her and your family. Being there together. Being a man with a family. Instead of just some dude with his wiener off on his own doing his own thing.