Married looking for newbie partner

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by ado, May 6, 2015.

  1. ado

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    Day 63 is over. Getting closer to my 2nd goal of 90 days. All the people I started following in my first few weeks have pretty much left the site! So I don't know if anyone is reading this but oh well. I don't spend a lot of time here any more, still check in somewhat regularly but it was really important in the beginning to check in here a lot. I hope missing a day here and there doesn't bring ruin.
    I've started to shift my attention on to other aspects of my sinful self. Namely my murmuring. I complain too much. I also talk to much. Ha ok kind of off topic but I don't have much fapping to talk about. I did fantasize a bit two days ago, what was that about! I'm not really a big fantasizer, fortunately it didn't lead anywhere else. Ok, on to 70!
     
  2. MrGreen

    MrGreen New Fapstronaut

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    I'm Married and joined the site to get help on resetting my life, I'm not doing this for religious reasons but to start a new.
     
  3. ado

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    If it involves getting rid of PMO then God speed!
     
  4. ado

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    Day 68 - I can't say I'm completely "rebooted" but I have noticed that the habit of turning to PMO every time I'm aroused has been broken. It's kind of like I'm trained to know its not an option and just to wait until it goes away. Still have to be vigilant for many other paths to PMO though.
     
  5. ado

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    Day 70 - another decade. I'm getting really close to my 90 day goal. I wonder if there will be any improvement between now and day 90. It's been much the same for a while now, not many temptations to PMO. My logical center has won out these days on the rest of my brain that used to convince myself it was a good idea. It helps that it's so overwhelmingly not a good idea!
     
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  6. ado

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    Day 73 - I had a thought of watching P today, I realized it has been a lot longer since that thought popped in my mind. I must be getting closer to purging. I changed that thought to checking in on here to see if there were any updates and to post. If there are any newbies reading I hope you follow me to 90 days!
     
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  7. ado

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    Sigh day 74 and I looked at some stuff for 5 minutes. Not technically P but it was stuff in an R movie. It got my body racing and I thought about going to finish the deed. Not long after that thought came in I thought about this site. I still finished watching the scene then came on here to read and post. I hope this is as far as it goes a bit of a step backwards. Today I was also in a lousy mood, similar to how I was with PMO. Goodnight nofap
     
  8. Jay8019

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    Keep going!!
    I made it to 30 days and had a relapse!
    I felt so bad too.
    However in that month my life was transformed. I felt amazing. Unstoppable. No anxiety or self doubt

    I'm back at day 12 again
    Good job ado
     
  9. ado

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    Thanks Jay. Once in 42 days is great, on to 90 day fap free!
    Day 77 for me!
     
  10. Jay8019

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    Thanks ado
    I could have gone on. I got arrogant
    The important thing is the realization that NoFap rebuilds you. It gives you something deep down that rebuilds your character and internal strength. For me everything improved, I felt stronger and looked better. As long as I was pumping iron in the gym I didn't miss it.
    I guess if you can control yourself and your urges it's the first step to controlling everything in your life

    Well done to you. I'm watching and chasing you man!!
     
  11. lowinthesky

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    Hello guys,

    I'm new here and knew the day would come in which I would have to drastically change my destructive behavior. I'm married as well and I love my wife. I've been watching porn on and off but mostly on since I was 13 and I'm 30. It all goes worse once I started getting into webcam. It seems as the addiction as evolve into something more powerful and more complex. I'm incredibly ashamed but also know how destructive it can be immersing myself into pity and judgment over my past actions. Hopefully, I'll be able to feel all of your support while also simultaneously being able to help others.

    I wish you all nothing but strength and luck and look forward to being an active part of this community.
     
  12. ado

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    Well you know the proverb - pride comes before destruction and a haughty spirit before the fall!
    Keep chasing!
    Day 80!!!! Wow only 10 days until I reach the all important 90 day goal. I am often very thankful that I'm out of the dredges that I was in for so long. I have been able to see clearer, unfortunately/fortunately see so many more other problems I have !
     
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  13. ado

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    Welcome! I've dealt with this for many years and I know that talking about it (being honest and admitting it) made a big help in finally getting over the hump. Go ahead and read page one, I was on day 0 back in May and now I'm almost to 90! Freedom from PMO is a million times better than slavery to it.
    Feel free to share this forum with me as your daily journal.
     
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  14. lowinthesky

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    Hey Ado,

    I really appreciate your support during this time of struggle. I've actually peered through most of the pages and done quite a bit of research over the last days. If you're open to it I would love to hear more about your story and hear about how you've overcome it/are overcoming it.

    Have a great day!
     
  15. rabbitm$u

    rabbitm$u New Fapstronaut

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    Right there with you. Married and going to get rid of the barrier to a deeper love. I am just starting out.
     
  16. ado

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    Great to hear it, it sucks what this stuff does to marriages. I started 80 days ago, you'll love being PMO free for 80 days it's so much better. Almost everyone on this site can testify to that
     
  17. ado

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    I'd be happy to share anything. I recommend you do the same - posting each day makes a difference.
     
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  18. Jay8019

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    Day 15 feel connected to creation!!
     
  19. lowinthesky

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    Did you also go through the phase of constantly telling yourself that it would be the last time but to just inevitably trick yourself back into it... rationalizing that this time would be fine?

    Day 2, staying busy and active, trying to be a better human every day.
     
  20. ado

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    Yes. I only went through that phase for about 4 years. I should have written it all down cause my memory isn't that great, but I can tell you after some times I would be so so convinced that there was no way I wanted to ever do it again because I hated it so much.
    Have you ever been about to fall asleep and you say "I have to do xyz tomorrow" and then next day you completely forget it? In fact you may remember it the next time you are falling asleep. These are kind of like "frame of minds". Well one of the most helpful things about these forums is reading and writing about the problem in all frames of mind. When you have a 0 day or 81 day streak. Keep learning about the benefits of NoFap all day so that you won't just remember it after you fapped.
    I've given up PMO for about 13 years now. Only 80 days ago joined this forum. I've learned tons of lessons over the years but I hope I'm done learning about This topic, I got so so sick of it and I hope that means I'm at the end of this road. Lord knows I've got plenty of other problems that need fixing
     
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