Masturbating Before Sexual Act?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Crispy21, Mar 27, 2016.

  1. Crispy21

    Crispy21 Fapstronaut

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    Just for the sole purpose of being able to last longer. Before sex or oral, how does everyone feel about this? Sure its M, but its for the purpose of lasting longer.

    Anyone have any thoughts?
     
  2. Limp Biscuits

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    I have PIED and DE so this is the opposite of my problem. I last so long that girls go dry and my muscles get weak ... and then eventually I masturbate myself to orgasm while fantasizing.

    So now I'm in monk mode where I've quit masturbation, porn, and fantasizing.

    I would trade both arms and legs for your problem with mine. To me, you're the luckiest person in the world. All you have to do is keep having sex and orgasming, and the more you orgasm, the longer you'll last in the next round.
     
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  3. Crispy21

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    Interesting. Thanks for the response.
     
  4. DireMerl

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    I would avoid it. You will only end up conditioning yourself to need mo before sex. Before you know it you won't be able to get hard without it, and you may end up skipping the sex all together as it is easier than dealing with another person. Don't worry about not lasting long enough. That improves the more sex you have.
     
  5. Kennen

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    I have PE..
    Yes, I last longer but I hate it.
    My seminal volume is small, I need to conserve.
     
  6. Crispy21

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    Definitely dont wanna condition myself to need that every time. But also dont wanna be embarrassed if it lasts less than a minute
     
  7. Dizzy Lotus

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    I can't say I have experience, but from what I've read and from reasoning, I think it's definitely better to not masturbate before sex. That doesn't seem like a healthy thing to do, and/as it could cause you to not get an erection anymore during sex.
     
  8. DireMerl

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    As long as you make sure you do lots of foreplay you should be fine. If you feel like you might be close, focus on her for a bit until you calm down. As long as she's had an orgasm before you even start intercourse, it won't matter if you don't last very long.

    It would be better if you're having intercourse with someone you trust and like, so she won't judge you if you're too quick.

    Also try to explain before that it's been a while and you might get a bit excited. Most women won't mind as long as you're a generous lover.
     
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  9. Crispy21

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    Very true. Good info here.
     
  10. freedomwarrior

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    Masturbating before sex is, well, greedy and self-centered, just like masturbating any other time of your life. Masturbating is all about me, me, me.
    When you are sexual with a woman, your entire focus should be on pleasing and pleasuring her, asking and listening to what she likes and what she wants and honoring that. If you are focusing on her, and not on yourself, you do not have to worry about not lasting when the intercourse time finally comes. You may even go limp while pleasing her because you are not even thinking about yourself, but just focusing on her. You will quickly regain your erection when you need to.
    Granted if her entire focus is on pleasing and pleasuring you, then you might be in trouble. But then you can take care of her second, and maybe there will even be thirds.
    Enjoy!

    FW
     
  11. nopenotdoinit!

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    Don't masturbate before sex lest you condition yourself to it. If you feel yourself beginning to O within a minute of starting, just stop and kiss your partner. Kiss her, talk to her, just stare into her eyes, things along those lines. Once your feeling of O goes away, continue your movements. Repeat this process as many times as you can/desire.
     

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