Masturbating once is not a "relapse" it's a "reset" - Risky/excessive masturbation can be a relapse.

hi Sonny Crocket,

keep going man. All your comrades on NoFap are supporting you!

 

Keep going bro. It is good to see you having self-reflection. Failure is a stepping stone to the best of yourself. Always believe in yourself and quit all possible triggers. You will surely eebuild a new life. Counting day is a good target to motivate ourselves to improve. Just to remember, days do not equal to the progress of recovery. (Which is what we pursue ultimately——Becoming fresh and blood. Feeling powerful as we never experienced).


If you don't mind, let me share some of my experience: The last time I failed was due to emotion. The experience reminds me of being alert for stress and emotion. Hence, I set up a new approach for myself: I tried to reduce the amount of meat in my meal, and somehow my mind was generally getting peaceful. When the urge come put down everything, I could easily calm myself down, and then go clean up my room. Removing all unclean stuff (like removing garbage in mind), and put things back to the way they should be, would certainly helps to clean up your mind.

If you don't mind, let me share an inspiring story of success that touches me to you. Hopefully it helps

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/365-days-a-year-after-being-born-again.333813/

 

Thank you.

 

I was into a month of no masturbation but then had a relapse two days ago: at least that's what I thought it was until I found this forum!
So I don't feel quite so bad.
I don't feel I want to masturbate again and I did it without watching porn, although I did fantasize about previous porn sites I had visited: so maybe not totally clean to claim reset rather than relapse!
I am nearly 6 months into no porn so I feel good about that.

 

"Eating apples non-excessively isn't considered unhealthy to medical professionals. Same with non-excessively masturbating. Non-excessively masturbating is considered normal behavior."

So, is there a guideline on what is normal, non-excessive masturbation?

 

No, not at this point. However, there are some guidelines that you can follow to help normalise what you might do.

• No porn. Seriously, no porn. I can't emphasise this enough.
• No masturbation games. Just vanilla masturbation. Don't feed your fetishes.
• Gently does it; no "death-grip".
• Slowly does it; don't rush.
• Steadily does it; no games.
• Only do it when you really need it for the physical release of built-up sexual tension. Don't masturbate because you're bored, angry, scared, lonely, distressed, whatever.

If you adhere to these simple guidelines, when you finally do hook up with a real person, it's going to feel extra good.

If you struggle emotionally to adhere to this, especially the last point, you probably need therapy as well.

By the way, did I mention no porn? That's the most important one of them all.

 

Let's go and please help me to overcome the obstacle. May you be my accountability partner? Much appreciated and hope we can conquer it

 

Whom is this directed at? Alexander?

 

yep, mate. Let's conquer together and overcome any obstacle in our life, mate

 

I'm heading to 8 days. Please support me, everyone. We'll conquer any obstacle together

 

I think you're in the wrong thread.

 

Idk if u are still doing NoFap but if u are looking for an accountability partner DM me ?

 

quality post

 

Hi 679,
With respect I strongly disagree with you. Everyone has to eat. None of us needs to engage in PMO. Eating an apple is preferable to eating pizza. Eating junk food is a relapse for anyone suffering from obesity. While eating an apple is merely refueling. Frankly there is no equivalence between eating an apple and eating pizza for the food addict.

Likewise engaging in PMO spells catastrophe for a sex addict. The roots of addiction are nourished by ejaculation. Abstinence from PMO, or any other addiction, is akin to walking on a tightrope. One misstep means disaster. Likewise masturbating once means a serious relapse.

Good luck comrade!