Masturbating once is not a "relapse" it's a "reset" - Risky/excessive masturbation can be a relapse.

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  1. justjack

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    thanks for that
     
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  2. Beloxxi

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    6/21 today I decided to make out with a girl, we got freaky and it was time to insert. I pulled my pants she pulled hers and I inserted, immediately my stuff gushed out I would've sworn it hasn't entered but I think it did. I felt embarrassed I waited few minutes it stood but not like b4 and once I entered my stuffs gushed out like b4 dat. That was embarrassment raised to power two can some advise me whats happening. Am I having quick ejaculation as a result of pmo very fast or is it normal since it was my first sex can someone advice me or tell me where I can upload this status to get useful information concerning this.
    Thanks
     
  3. WARRIORMAN

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    I notice I come a lot faster since no PM but sex is more enjoyable. Explain you situation to her and keep powling away . It won't be long you'll be lasting like Ron Jeremy
     
  4. GoPhonix

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    I just had the MO no P scenario at 9 day of my challenged – and I had the trouble that used memory based pictures from P. so I think it was a relapse for me.

    And to the initial analogue: sure if food addict eats a apple it is good but if the sager in the apple makes him hungry and the chasing brings him to eat sweets he maybe should stayed on cabbage for 90 days …

    I mean I want to have sex again but on refreshed ground like food addict that taste real natural flavour again and gets fulfilled by normal portions after healing the insulin tolerance ...

    The general metric is good though if the day counting holds motivation in it and to also feel good about not did P just MO as some sort of damage control. I guess it will happen again at some point and I will judge based on what my thought wehre at while doing it if it is a relapse. Forcing me to reacall and observe to avoid the next time.
     
  5. Beloxxi

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    I had a wet dream is a reset for my no pmo streak?
     
  6. Jim2015

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    No need to reset, @Beloxxi . The dreams are a natural, human, bodily process. No worries here! :)
     
  7. Beloxxi

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    How do you deal with fantasies and thoughts that always spring up that gives one a hard-on?
     
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  8. Training the mind...
     
  9. Beloxxi

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    I'm still having difficulty knowing my way around here especially getting access to useful study materials to aid me to overcome.
     
  10. fabi9731

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    Pinches enfermos
     
  11. Quitingporn

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    Ive gone just over 300 days without porn or releaving myself is it a bad idea to not releave myself and do i reset my counter to zero if i do or should i stick at it as i can do that.
     
  12. user10111

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    Same here, i failed again because of that. I just made a reset on my day counter, i was 20 days away without M, and i just did M, so i am starting over again. i somehow did M thinking of this post but i wasn't aware that you have to reset your day counter, so no more M this time.. i will make it to 40 days of no M this time. #Positivity
     
  13. Quitingporn

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    Can going too long without sex or m be a bad idea

    i asked someone i know off this forum because i think its had the opposite affect on me because my eyes seem to be picking up on them body parts even though i dont want to.And thats male and female this friend said it can be bad to go without m or sex for too long.Im thinking of m i need some relief i think it would do me good.I wasnt heavy into it towards the end it was just when i thought i needed it.
     
  14. Quitingporn

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    It gets easier as time goes on but like i said im now thinking i should just when needed
     
  15. Henry Moore

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    It's a good guide for the right act of masturbation, but how to define the frequency of that "once"?
     
  16. yuki456

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    Muy buen artículo, muchas gracias por tu consejo.
     
  17. Manudi

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    Hello! Am new here! I have started the reboot process and i was reaching the 23 day, last even i got trapped ending up making love to girl and it did not last more 20 seconds. And in the morning i got in a chaser effect that hunted me hard and finally i ended up on porn and masturbate! Pliz tell me wat shud i do!??
     
  18. _Owais_

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    Hmm I respect your words sir but as u said if masturbation puts your body at risk& effects you negatively then its a relapse but in many cases a single time masturbation can put people on higher rate of risks...so should we consider It a relapse...
    Everyone is different but many peoples get negatively influenced if they even masturbate in moderation
     
  19. Captain777

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    Good article

    I agree with you. Masturbating once in a month or a lot less is not harmful to anyone.
     
  20. ultrafabber

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    I already mentioned I don't agree with the title, every masturbation is a relapse, but i have to add something about how "excessive" is not defined in OP.

    To further prove the point or at the very least add some nuance to the topic, see how many users report masturbating ONCE but for more than 50 minutes. https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/for-how-long-do-you-indulge-in-a-pmo-session.203267/

    That is certainly abnormal and unhealthy, even if it's "technically" just once.

    People have no definition of what "excessive" is and this should at the very least be mentioned in the OP especially because it references "excessive masturbation". Is 3 minutes excessive? 7? 13? 20? 55?

    Since Alexander thinks masturbation is healthy and even compares it to eating an apple (very bad comparison), he should at the very least define what "moderation" is.

    Is masturbating one time for 54 minutes normal and healthy too?
     
    Last edited: Nov 22, 2018
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