Masturbating once is not a "relapse" it's a "reset" - Risky/excessive masturbation can be a relapse.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Alexander, May 30, 2018.

  1. diesel2256

    diesel2256 Fapstronaut

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    Isn't the "consensus" that porn is fine too? I'm extremely skeptical of "most doctors / scientists / psychologists agree" statements without actually reading the studies or statements that they are agreeing to. A great example is the whole man made global warming thing -- the proof and "agreement" on this is vastly overblown when you actually look into the figures. For example, that 97% of scientists agree on man made global warming bit comes from a questionnaire sent out to something like 6k scientists, 3k responded, and then of those, 80 something were selected as having apparently valid opinions. Of those, 78 said "yes" to man made global warming. Whether your agree about global warming being caused by Co2 is besides the point -- the point is simply that these ideas about what is agreed upon and what isn't is often manipulated in ways that aren't immediately apparent to the casual observer.

    Based on personal experience, which isn't worth much scientifically, orgasming with a woman that you care about seems vastly different than MO or PMO. I don't know why, but I'm not drained by being with a woman. I don't feel the guilt, the crash, or the life being sucked out of me. I can't explain why and it doesn't make sense, but it seems fundamentally different. That said, one night stands or simply "hooking up" gives me some of that crash / PMO feeling. If I had to guess, it'd be that hooking up / casual sex is similar to masturbation as far as the brain is concerned.
     
  2. ClaritySeeker

    ClaritySeeker Fapstronaut

  3. It happens to me too man. It stinks.
    Start a conversation with me if you want (26yo male)
     
  4. RickandMorty531

    RickandMorty531 New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for this thread. Logging in and reading a few forums really helps reinforce my demeanor for the day.
     
  5. This is outstanding. I agree 100 percent. The only thing I might change is the word failure. I personally would like to ban it from use for all of us whose motives are good/honest, but yet still haven’t met our personal goals in this area. Thanks for decriminalizing an incidence of non compulsive masturbation. It’s just a pot hole on the road to progress. Stay on the road.
     
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  6. Benjamin_window1993

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    hey guys so i have a weird sex drive as of late and need your help cause im starting to get a tad bit confused here.

    so if i start watching anything gay I will have slight genital responses to that however cannot masturbate to it as my penis goes limp. however even if I'm watching that and switch my thoughts to women and start thinking about women and other sexual fetishes i have ill instantly get a boner and can ejaculate quicker than what i would normally be able too. what's going on with me is there something wrong ?
    please help
     
  7. Mordobarn

    Mordobarn Fapstronaut

    @Benjamin_window1993 , you really need to start a new thread for this. But the simple answer is that porn messes up your natural responses, which is why you have weird and unnatural responses. As always, an initial 90-day hard reboot is the recommendation, after which you can re-evaluate.
     
  8. Benjamin_window1993

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    well tbh I was thinking about it but I mean switching my thoughts to women after watching something gay, and getting aroused by the women, wouldn't that make me straight ?
    I mean from the first time i even did anything with a girl I would always get erect and could ejaculate over it so i think i may just be over reacting just abit
     
  9. Mordobarn

    Mordobarn Fapstronaut

    The scientific research is unequivocal about this. Nothing can make you straight or make you gay. You are born the way that you are. That is why "gay cures" do not work, and are even illegal in some countries.

    Porn can completely confuse you. Some straight men have written on this forum about being so confused after extreme porn use that they have gone out and taken risky gay sex, and utterly hated it. Porn made them HOCD, but that didn't make them gay.

    You are who you are, and porn can't change that. But it can utterly confuse you and ruin your life.

    Start a 90-day reboot, and start a new thread for your problems so that other people can help you.
     
  10. ultrafabber

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    This is incorrect, there is nothing "unequivocal" about it, but this is not the topic to discuss it.
     
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  11. Mordobarn

    Mordobarn Fapstronaut

    Please argue with the scientists, not with me.
     
  12. AncestralWarrior

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    Straight facts. Let it be a slip, not a slide.
     
  13. ultrafabber

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    I'm not here to argue with you, i'm here to correct your sensationalistic and false claims. This is not the right place to continue this discussion.
     
  14. ? ? ?

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    Appreciate it . . .
     
  15. Animate Vibration

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    It depends, males have a lot of sexual energy, our sexual behavioral systems are much more expressive because human females are selective breeders. You could even call that our peacocking mechanism since we are primarily pair bonders, this creates a lot of aggressive energy. Now this presents a lot of problems for men in the current age of decadence, most things are done for us now and since men are very much action oriented physiologically that can leave a void where a lot of excess energy isn't spent, and that energy is very much sexual as it is any other part. Now, I personally masturbate occasionally simply to release a lot of pent up energy and return to a more leveled state, which is one of the healthier reasons. Sometimes if you gotta pull your pud, you gotta pull your pud. Though I should stipulate, if you can't control your masturbatory behavior then you are far better off going to the gym and lifting heavy things, or doing something psychologically rigorous to expel it.
     
  16. Multiverse5

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    I relapsed but i masturbated again afyer watching porn. I felt like after 16 days I am back to my depressed self slowly. How to stop watching nudes or porn. That's the difficult part because I know my brain is so addicted to this shit.. That by just one peek it artists this destructive journey. It happened for the second time in 2 days.
     
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  17. Alexander

    Alexander Website Admin
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    You should post a new thread about it in the Rebooting section. Here is a forum usage guide.
     
  18. wakup309

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    very helpful info about diffrent from reset and M in excessively way
     
  19. wakup309

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    think in it that you do crazy think on yourself and no partner you desare if you do M , think in it you are only in lose and you shift your dreams and time walking and you are still fall on this trap
     
  20. Conqueror_J47

    Conqueror_J47 New Fapstronaut

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    It's Spanish. This is the translation below....

    I think you have to reedit your reaction, masturbation sometimes reaches premature ejaculation, now if you ambush and avoid friction and will clean your brain of memories everything will be fine and then when in intimacy with another person is very important the caresses until ending in the intimate relationship.
     

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