Masturbation as part of sex with a partner

I wouldn't do it while rebooting. And I definitely wouldn't do it to finish off. As uncomfortable and frustrating as it would be, I would say it's better not to ejaculate than to finish manually. Think about it; this is only going to exacerbate whatever desensitization you have. At best, it will delay resensitization. At worst, it will reverse your progress and prevent full healing. It may not be a problem for the direct healing of the addiction, but it is definitely going to be a problem for the healing of the addiction's symptoms. Emotionally it is also a sign to your partner that you still prefer masturbation to sex. Even if your partner says, and means and believes, that she doesn't have a problem with it, I think it communicates the same message, with the potential to do unnoticed psychological and/or emotional damage to her.

The potential benefit is an orgasm, or an easier orgasm, or a better orgasm in the immediate term, and the potential costs are harm to your partner and damage to your recovery. The result of the cost-benefit analysis is obvious: it just isn't worth it.

 

As a female partner of a man with PIED, DE no no no no no no. Did I say that enough times? The point is to break old habits and rewire your body. You need to learn to only O from her so her hand, her mouth her vagina. If you know you can always resort to your hand you have that out you will never achieve O with her. Plus many men get a chaser effect and it reminds them how their hand feels and they want to MO. I'm not sure if you have DE or not. But if you do it's already caused a strain on your partner. It never bothered me when prior partners would use their hand once in awhile when they pulled out. But the only way my current man could O with me is eyes closed, masturbating over me, Oing on me and it has to be his hand not mine. This is not enjoyable for the woman trust me.

 

Nope. I have experience with this and it is just as bad as porn. You still are adding to desensitization and it comes to a point that you RELY on using your hand to finish sex. My SO and I agreed this doesn't help at all

 

Yep exactly. I know it's hard for the man because that may mean having lots of sex with no O but it's the only way to fix the problem.