masturbation buddy

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by rendition, Feb 21, 2021.

  1. rendition

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    I have been such an avid masturbation enthusiast that I was close on seeking a masturbation buddy (jobuddy/wank bud) to enjoy my masturbation with another masturbator. How bad is it to start masturbation relationships with someone of the same sex when both are heterosexual?
     
  2. phwrancesco

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    Depend a lot on your age. I remeber that in puberty for some friends was perfectly normal to masturbate togheter. If you've passed youre puberty thats definetly something wrong.
     
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  3. rendition

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    Since I never experienced masturbating with another guy, I guess is something I need to get out of my system by trying it once.
     
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  4. Divine By Design

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    What in the world... In what context would this even happen?
     
  5. phwrancesco

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    Well, i clearly remember having numerous friends doing this.
     
  6. If you are gonna do it anyway, why even bother asking if it's bad?

    Such blatant denial and one-track mind.
     
  7. rendition

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    feedback. I'm not 100% determined on proceeding with it.
     
  8. JLD

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    There is nothing wrong about it. It is a homosexual behavior, but nothing morally wrong about it.

    The only thing is that you lose your semence with all the consequences related to it.
     
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  9. rendition

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    The additional hope is if I acquired a fap buddy, to both work together on decreasing fap frequency by day, to eventually nofap per day and go on a streak, and be determined by it. I tried many times solo and i fail after 2-4 days. My goal is going 1 month streak, then push it to 90 days.
     
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  10. Trobone

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    That's like an alcoholic saying he'll get a drinking buddy to only have beers every now and then. Either quit or don't.
     
  11. rendition

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    I tried quitting cold turkey but it hasnt worked for me. I was recommended a gradual decrease, but having someone work with me (instead of someone advising me) will help me a lot. Is like having a buddy going through therapy together, as oppose alone. I think that would be quite effective for me.
     
  12. Trobone

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    You're going to do what you want. But masturbation is not like therapy. It's not working on root causes or triggers or anything. Masturbation is the thing you want to stop doing, and you're adding new and stimulating reasons to keep doing it (again, you're trying to stop drinking by having a drinking buddy who you hope will tell you to stop while he also stops, just after this last beer).
     
  13. Divine By Design

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    If you were looking for an accountability partner, then I'd be all for it. However, a "fap buddy" sounds like the absolute opposite of that. I don't even know why you would ever want that.
     
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  14. TheForsakeen

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    free bj?
     
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  15. Trash545415

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    This a is a really bad route to take. Please don’t do anything of the sort. This is 100% homosexual behavior and if you go down this route it will be very hard to come back!
     
  16. Divine By Design

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    If that's what you're into...
     
  17. Oldfart_v2

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    I'd steer clear. It might seem like harmless fun but it sets you up for a worse outcome then you might expect. Might lead him on or do something you regret. Keep it G or PG rated and avoid this silly behaviour.
     
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  18. rendition

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    what you mean lead him on or do something I will regret? are you implying rape?
     
  19. Cole96

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    Hey rendition,

    first I would like to congratulate you for your openness. Talking about what you think and seeking feedback is an important part of this community. :)

    I understand your curiosity in trying new things out, but if you registered in this forum, then a part of you is probably looking for a way out of this cycle (either from porn, masturbation and/or orgasms).

    If you are looking for a way out of it, then following your curiosity, as already explained by other users in this thread, might not be what you are looking for.

    However, if you are interested in staying in that cycle, and you fully agree to the consequences it brings, then there's nothing that I can tell you.

    From my experience, no matter how curious you get, there's always a higher dose of dopamine to be reached. In other words, you might think this is the thing you were looking for, and then you end up wanting more than just that. And then it becomes an endless pursuit of external stimuli.

    That's why, again, I must warn you: if you are truly looking for a way out of this cycle, then don't try to look for external things.

    Instead, choose to look within yourself. Is there something you are struggling with? Is there something you are afraid of or stressed about?

    Is masturbation a way for you to cope with something else?

    I noticed from your last status update that you are looking for an AP, so if you need someone to talk to, you can reach out to me or anyone you see fit.

    I hope you find my words useful. Please take care of yourself and don't be afraid to reach out. I don't judge you :) I also went through a lot of ups and downs, and still do.

    I wish the best for your journey, my friend!
     
  20. Blazey

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    Hi!
    Dont do it man. I have done it when i was in puberty age, it didnt bring anything good and wasnt worth it at all.
     
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