Masturbation in the morning...

Hey man , I am pretty sure most people on here have had the same problem in the past. I myself overcame it by not having my devices near me and setting up a routine to wake up to. I'd get up, tidy my room, make the bed, write in my journal reminding myself that I was powerless to this addiction and only truly being there would I overcome it. I would then do a simple 10 minute yoga session and then meditate. It wasn't always in that order but its a good way of getting started for the day. I used to get out of bed the instant I was awake, I was never a good sleeper though and understood I needed more sleep, so now I do go back to sleep, but if the urges appear then that goes out the window.

I hope this helps, good luck friend!

 

Well most people do get strong urges in the morning. So there is that.

 

One of my worst times is first thing in the morning so you're definitely not alone
One thing I'm going to set up is a morning routine, make the bed, meditate, that sort of thing.

 

Testosterone is at it's highest in the morning.
normal.

 

Hey @Weetabix , I came by this thread by chance and saw this part of your post. Can you explain a little further about what it was/is that you write in your journal about being powerless? And what do you mean by 'truly being there'?

The reason that I ask is that I keep coming back to not taking my addiction seriously enough. I manage to have a streak of 1, 2 or 3 weeks, sometimes more, and then when I think I'm over it I come across something that throws me back completely and I didn't see it coming at all. So I have to find a way to remind myself that I'm addicted, every day or even every hour, and that I can not slack.

I'm sorry, this was off-topic in concern of @NewLife 225 's question, so to also throw in my 2 cents on that: yes, if you find that your urges are concentrated in a specific time of the day, or in a specific room etc., you can start by changing your habit. Depending on how deeply rooted your addiction is (which in my case is way deeper than I care to admit) your urges might crop up in another way, but changing the habits around your current urges is a great start.

 

put your phone away from your bed and set an alarm to it. You'll get out of bed instead of watching porn or masturbating. That'll solve the problem.

 

Well I literally write "I am powerless to this addiction and my life has become unmanageable." Now this is to remind me that I have lost my way, I have allowed this addiction to take me as its prisoner and I need to come back to myself to truly break free.

Now in terms of truly being there, that's all about being in the present, being at peace with the fact that what happened in the past with my addiction is gone and can't affect me, and everything in the future will come to pass but only within the now, so there's no need to stress where I am going to be, for I am in the only place that matters, the here and now. You need tobe present in yourself too overcome your urges. Next time you have a thought, doesn't have to be an urge or about porn, can be any and every thought, just take notice of it and let it go. Then look at what happened, you observed the thought and the emotion that arose, for you are not the thoughts, the emotions, you are the observer. You watch the thinker on a day to day basis, allow them to rule who you are when who you are is really the observer, you have just lost your way of being in past sadness and future anxiety. Be in the moment, be yourself and watch your thoughts and emotions pass by, overcome it all by just being present.

It's all part of the book by Eckhart Tolle called the Power of Now, I suggest reading it and really giving it a go, I'm not a spiritual being but this has changed me, by just being in the now I have cured my performance anxiety, which has plagued me for months now.

I hope this helps, inbox me if you want some more info!

 

How do you plan to battle it?