MAYDAY...MAYDAY.... HELP!!!

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WhyNotStop

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So I've been clean for more than a week now which for me is a great accomplishment. I've been talking to this girl, all seems well but depression is spontaneously hitting me when thoughts of rejection come to mind. I recognize that this depression and sometimes anxiety are part of my recovery. I'm losing self control now and fighting myself to not relapse. How can I stop these intense urges.... HELP!!!
 
Observe the situation with calm detachment! Don't do anything rash or impulsive to end the streak! Plunge into purposeful activity like chores, reading, exercise, taking a long stroll or lying out in the sun. Then the intense anxiety/depression will not be 'in your face' any longer so you can rationalize and cope with the situation rather than being obsessed with it which would cause the relapse.
 
Don't try to stop the urges. Just notice the urge, try and accept it and move on. You could do something physical, even housework, while listening to music or something like that. Or just say, right I'm going to sit out this storm and it will pass soon.

The good news is that when the urges go you'll feel good.

For me I always find having a shower helps too.
 
Try and think of all the progress you've made and are going to make and how PMO will start you back from scratch.
And don't overthink things with this young lady the anxiety will ease in time!
 
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