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Me and No More Mr Nice Guy

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by whoami33, Sep 7, 2018.

  1. Sep 7, 2018 #1
    whoami33

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    i'm reading No More Mr. Nice Guy , purchased this book in 2014. during this years i read it sometimes to some extent but finally felt its not about me and stopped reading it, but now i think with this long streak i can see that this book can be beneficial for me for some reasons.

    the main reason i stopped reading previously probably was because it was too hard for me to face truth and easier to keep old path but now without old nasty solution i have motivation to try it.

    This book has been first published in 2003 and and the Author in first of the book writes that the nice guys do struggle with sexual acting outs like pornography,     prostitute and . . ..

    Youtube started in 2005 and porn tube websites i checked has started in 2007 this means the book has been published with people before tube sites in mind.

    Now i'm wondering does porn makes viewers specially Tube website viewers more prone to become a nice guy ? is this a two way road ?

    What do you think ?
     
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  2. Sep 8, 2018 #2
    BestVersionToday

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    A better book is "Not nice" by Dr Aziz. That's the one you wanna read.

    Most jerk offs are nice guys so everyone should read it.
     
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  3. Sep 8, 2018 #3
    whoami33

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    @BestVersionToday its listed under hypnosis in amazon.
    What kind of a book it is?
     
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  4. Sep 8, 2018 #4
    elevate

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    In terms of what the book covers, it states that nice guys act in a way that they think other people will like them for. Creating a covert contract that says "if I do this and that, then you have to like me and give me what I want" and if it doesn't happen, they become bitter about it. Low self esteem and ashamed.

    It's a way to try to avoid rejection, pain, problems, and negative experiences via manipulation / deception. It's a way to seek easy, certain, and instant gratification just like with porn. Escaping the reality where not everything goes your way and not everyone will be interested in you. The nice guy act (as expressed in the book) is a way to reach perfectionism and have a guarantee that they'll get their desired outcome (which doesn't exist in reality so they try to manipulate to no avail or they leave reality entirely for things like porn and prostitutes).
     
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