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Meditation

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Porn No More, Jan 27, 2017.

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  1. Porn No More

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    i am looking to now branch into meditation but don't know the first thing or where to start. There are a ton of books etc but figured I would ask to see if anyone has suggestions on how to proceed. Any feedback is greatly appreciated
     
  2. Fatsodubmo

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    I started with the "Calm" app and it is awesome! I've done it every day since I started. Its been a huge help!
     
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    20 Practical Tips for Understanding the Mind. These tips aren’t aimed at helping you to become an expert … they should help you get started and keep going. You don’t have to implement them all at once — try a few, come back to this article, try one or two more.

    1. Sit for just two minutes. This will seem ridiculously easy, to just meditate for two minutes. That’s perfect. Start with just two minutes a day for a week. If that goes well, increase by another two minutes and do that for a week. If all goes well, by increasing just a little at a time, you’ll be meditating for 10 minutes a day in the 2nd month, which is amazing! But start small first.
    2. Do it first thing each morning. It’s easy to say, “I’ll meditate every day,” but then forget to do it. Instead, set a reminder for every morning when you get up, and put a note that says “meditate” somewhere where you’ll see it.
    3. Don’t get caught up in the how — just do. Most people worry about where to sit, how to sit, what cushion to use … this is all nice, but it’s not that important to get started. Start just by sitting on a chair, or on your couch. Or on your bed. If you’re comfortable on the ground, sit cross-legged. It’s just for two minutes at first anyway, so just sit. Later you can worry about optimizing it so you’ll be comfortable for longer, but in the beginning it doesn’t matter much, just sit somewhere quiet and comfortable.
    4. Check in with how you’re feeling. As you first settle into your meditation session, simply check to see how you’re feeling. How does your body feel? What is the quality of your mind? Busy? Tired? Anxious? See whatever you’re bringing to this meditation session as completely OK.
    5. Count your breaths. Now that you’re settled in, turn your attention to your breath. Just place the attention on your breath as it comes in, and follow it through your nose all the way down to your lungs. Try counting “one” as you take in the first breath, then “two” as you breathe out. Repeat this to the count of 10, then start again at one.
    6. Come back when you wander. Your mind will wander. This is an almost absolute certainty. There’s no problem with that. When you notice your mind wandering, smile, and simply gently return to your breath. Count “one” again, and start over. You might feel a little frustration, but it’s perfectly OK to not stay focused, we all do it. This is the practice, and you won’t be good at it for a little while.
    7. Develop a loving attitude. When you notice thoughts and feelings arising during meditation, as they will, look at them with a friendly attitude. See them as friends, not intruders or enemies. They are a part of you, though not all of you. Be friendly and not harsh.
    8. Don’t worry too much that you’re doing it wrong. You will worry you’re doing it wrong. That’s OK, we all do. You’re not doing it wrong. There’s no perfect way to do it, just be happy you’re doing it.
    9. Don’t worry about clearing the mind. Lots of people think meditation is about clearing your mind, or stopping all thoughts. It’s not. This can sometimes happen, but it’s not the “goal” of meditation. If you have thoughts, that’s normal. We all do. Our brains are thought factories, and we can’t just shut them down. Instead, just try to practice focusing your attention, and practice some more when your mind wanders.
    10. Stay with whatever arises. When thoughts or feelings arise, and they will, you might try staying with them awhile. Yes, I know I said to return to the breath, but after you practice that for a week, you might also try staying with a thought or feeling that arises. We tend to want to avoid feelings like frustration, anger, anxiety … but an amazingly useful meditation practice is to stay with the feeling for awhile. Just stay, and be curious.
     
  4. Porn No More

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    Thanks guys I appreciate it!
     
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  5. Staycleanmatt

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    I downloaded the app and gonna give it a shot! 22 days no pmo and counting
     
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  6. Fatsodubmo

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    I should get commission as much as I recommend that app lol
     
  7. Porn No More

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    Downloaded it today. Is it worth the subscription for the year? I'm gonna try the basic free one first but hard to gauge since everything else pretty much is a purchase
     
  8. Fatsodubmo

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    I did the 7 Days of Calm and decided to pay the $33 for the year. It has been worth it to me, but for me $33 isnt a lot of money.
     
  9. Rion008

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    Omvana is another app from MindValley that can help with meditation. There are other forms of meditation that are more 'active' like Tao sex transmutation...this is also a path to consider integrating as it helps u master ur sexual energy and replace porn
     
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  10. Porn No More

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    Tao sex transmutation sounds interesting. Any apps for that or guidance you can give to give that a try as well?
     
  11. leoac13

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    What is it about?
     
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  12. Fatsodubmo

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    It is about meditation :) Im not quite sure I understand your question.

    It seems like a very comprehensive meditation app. It focuses on calm, anxiety, sleep, being in the now, breathing, non judgment, happiness, managing stress, gratitude and more. Check it out, it gives you a lot for free!
     
  13. leoac13

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    That's precisely what i asked. Wanted to know about the app :) .
     
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