Thanks for the reply but you seem to be operating under the misconception that I am not aware of the problems facing women in our current societal structure or the immense struggle that women do face in terms of work place recognition. I'm also aware of the problems currently facing men in the system as well, and if its any consolation I think that the MGTOW movement is just as ridiculous in its extremity. However that is not the point of my reply, it was to address what I perceive as the issues that have led to the current condition of western society, and in terms of the address of futurism, it is not written in stone it is merely a current predication of where things seem to be headed, as I said without a hard reset. Feminism to many women can mean many different things but the majority of the issues that you have written about are based on personal experiences in a work place that is synonymous with being an ego fueled and driven industry. Lots of practitioners of law register on the sociopathy spectrum just as engineers and sciences tend to be more lenient towards people on the autistic spectrum, and the behavior of the people involved can be accused as part of patriarchy but as you said yourself women in high positions prop up the system as well. The systems are driven by corporatism and power dynamics and where there is classically positions for abuse to be made, it will be made regardless of gender. Women in a male dominated industry tend to be more focused on as they are in the minority. Just as men are in female dominated industry. This is what gets passed off as in good fun, or banter, or a lapse in judgement and it is covered up, not because of the propping up of gender in-equality but rather to support the corporate apparatus. My work is predominantly now in HR in a company that is majority female employed, in a female led industry. I work directly under three different female managers, and in that time have also been the subject of sexual innuendos, unwanted advances, and in some cases outright racism, and this is from the HR department, the department that is supposed to be the open forum to highlight problems like this. I've seen men get their applications turned down, because they were "Men." I've seen managers from my own and other departments use promotion as a tool for sexual favors. I've heard inappropriate comments, and one of the managers above me who is new to the position is an open black supremacist and so won't hire any white people male or female over non-whites unless there is an overwhelming reason in terms of experience or education to hire them. This is unacceptable because hiring process should be the most qualified candidate for the job regardless of gender or ethnicity. It all gets unfairly brushed under the table, because the reputation and the function of the company takes precedence over everything else including personal feelings. It's not fair, but its the system that exist, and until the management is willing to actually tackle it from the inside and not pay lip service to media outlets and government, then it will continue as it is a workplace culture. In regards to the gender pay gap, I'm am for equality, I do not see the reason why the adjustment should be made that women and men have a pay disparity just as I don't see how the dynamic between maternal and paternal leave should be so lopsided, it should be equal for both, but again this would require a complete overhaul of the corporate structure and a guarantee that the 40 week is the 40 hour week, and women along with men should be allowed and understandably supporting in wanting to start a family. Here again its more of a structural and institutional issue than it is a gender driven issue, as you said yourself the representation of women in specific sectors of the economy is under represented or over represented depending on the sector in question. The adage of the day seems to be the call to get more women into specific industries, by women who aren't involved in those actual specific industries, and in some cases it just seems to be the same old talking points that are brought up with the expectation that some form of Deus Ex Machina will come and instantaneously fix things. The simple fact that if change is going to happen it has to happen by women like yourself joining an industry and changing it, rather than external pressures. As for the situation with your fiance it is unfortunate, but it is tied into personal experience and not every man or woman would react the same in that situation. You need to understand from a psychological point of view, that the man you were engaged to viewed his work as just as much a part of the value of his own persona, as you view yours. The status and identity that we derive from the society around is is tied to our biological gender biases, and he was not able to overcome the expectation that you would quit your work to become a primary caregiver in your future family, regardless of the monetary loss. Again its unfortunate that you weren't able to work things out amicably and the relationship ended as neither of you were willing to make the necessary perceived sacrifices. Things might have turned out differently with a different man, or a different situation, or if the man had perceived a greater value in terms of self worth in being a stay at home Dad than working, but that is all speculation. As for women doing more work in the domestic setting I can't confirm or deny this. In my own personal experience having lived with partners in the past I've always approached it as an equal share of home equity. This was reinforced by my own personal experience growing up, my mother kept the house in order and would cook occasionally and clean and mend things and worked part time. My father worked in engineering as a consultant and farmed and gardened and would cook occasionally, and both would help each other in their tasks when they could. Any time either of them wanted to try and do something the other was usually supportive. It wasn't perfect distribution of labor but I never viewed one as inferior or superior to the other as they both worked hard at what they did. Men shouldn't be able to just walk into a union job and get a pay check. I agree, I think the union systems have outlived their usefulness anyways, (different story ) and I don't think any group of people should ever have a franchise just because. I've always viewed life through the competitive lens of equal opportunity, I want the people who will work the hardest at whatever they try to do, because that in the end results in the most progress and I've often found the majority of people who are willing to tactfully compete are often welcomed in regardless of background, ultimately the value you add to society in general is a far better metric for success, and the majority of people love success regardless of gender or ethnicity. Sure you will always get in group preferences, but the fact remains that if it was a rigid rather than fluid aspect there would be absolutely no forms of social or cross cultural exchange. But I suppose that's a glass half full argument, I try to view the world in a positive light.