Met a girl friend. Now i'm worried.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by RonTheMan, Mar 9, 2018.

  1. RonTheMan

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    So while I was in library, I saw my friend and went to her. As I went to her, I saw that her t shirt was loose and her parts clearly visible. I swiftly, tilted.my head down and started taking to her.she asked me why am I doing that, and told me to look up. I then started talking to her, but I kept my focus on her eyes and face.

    I then sat in the chair, but her t shirt was so loose that they were visible than also.
    Same I focused on her eyes
    and face.

    Did I relapsed?
     
  2. FEEL

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  3. RonTheMan

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    More opinions are invited
     
  4. GripLess

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    Lol. NO relapse. That there is what we like to call a real woman. Sounds to me like you handled the situation very well.
     
  5. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    No relapse. You are a male. It’s normal to be attracted to a female.
     
  6. NewDrug

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    @RonTheMan I hope I don't sound disrespectful of your concerns here, but I think you may be going a bit overboard with your preventative measures. The whole point of distancing yourself from porn is so that you can engage with real women and appreciate all aspects of them (including physical) so that porn feels like what it is - fake and empty - in comparison. I understand and totally encourage avoiding leering at girls in public and constantly coming up with porn fantasies, but avoiding looking at a woman's body while talking to her...you're putting yourself through undue torture my friend.

    I'm guessing you're fairly young and I notice that younger guys on here are way more literal and strict about what counts as relapse, how many days...sometimes getting to the point of "if I think bad thoughts should I reset my counter?". This isn't a video game...shame, anxiety and the accumulation of points are not the path to recovery. Just go a little easier on yourself.
     
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  7. RonTheMan

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    thanks for your suggestions.
     
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  9. At the risk of turning this thread into an echo chamber, you didn't relapse. This is the sort of thing you should be responding to (assuming it's what floats your boat).
     
  10. This actually might have been a perfect teaching moment for your friend. When she asked you why you were looking down you could have been perfectly honest and told her you are trying not to look at women as sex objects and her loose t-shirt was not helping. Who knows where the conversation would have gone, but it would probably have been very interesting! A meeting of the minds between sexes... (Ha, ha.. you might have ended up getting laid!)
     
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  11. seaguy44

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    I think she probably knows that she has a loose shirt. Women do that to attract men.

    Loose shirt in a library?!?! She might be attracted to the OP.

    It’s definitely distracting! I can relate to the OP!!!! Been there before in the exact situation.
     
  12. Lol you are allowed to look at women when your on nofap.
     
  13. RonTheMan

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    hey. Thank you all for your suggestions. Now i can chill. Moments like these worries me
     
  14. As someone who is uptight all the time, moreso when I'm carrying a full load and in the presence of an attractive woman, I think that's probably for the best.
     
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  15. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    I agree. Every man has struggled with this! If the man had not struggled with that, something is wrong.

    Spring is coming so that means more distractions
     
  16. asbgca

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    You didn't relapse ... but it sounds like you might be a bit triggered. The image might stick around in your subconscious for a few days. How are your urges since Friday?
     

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