Met Escort I wasn't attracted to and still went through

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by GA93JDeereboy, Oct 14, 2019.

  1. GA93JDeereboy

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    Idk guys, I am up now, should be sleeping now but I screwed up again. I'm still screwing up doing the same sh### over and over. I need some kind of help. Idk what to do or if this forum is helping. I'm not on it much.
    I went out to meet an escort the first one left me hanging. So I found another one online. Ok went their and I wasn't really attracted to her. I didn't really enjoy the sex. I didn't go inside her. Just I don't really think getting into the details of what was done is really relevant is it? But I wasn't attracted to her. And the organism wasn't good either. I was just really determined to get laid I guess but it wasn't any good. Idk if any of you guys ever had sex or something with a woman you didn't find attractive before?
    Being a guy we are not like a woman but I still came, but it wasn't like pleasurable.
    Idk how to explain it but here I am. I still seeing escorts.
    Now last week I did meet an escort and it was pretty fun. But now I mean we don't communicate hardly so it was like all that for this? This can't be worth it. I need to find a girlfriend but I have a lengthy past with escorts and I think I am doomed. About to be turning another year older. Idk what should I do?
     
  2. FollowYourBeard

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    I would say it's pretty normal, you can cum with girls that don't interest you, but there's no satisfaction.

    I'd say find yourself a purpose and a responsibility to bear and then fight with all you got to bear it best it can be done. It helps me a lot with staying on course, because it's no longer about not doing shit, it's about doing other shit.
     
  3. cleanliving81

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    Your past is just that THE PAST its not the PRESENT so you can drop that. Finding a girlfriend isn't always what its cracked up to be FINDING A WOMEN WHO LIKES YOU JUST AS YOU ARE is where its really at and that's were relationships get fun . Trying to get someone to like you who isn't interested is a drain and waste of time . So is trying to be someone your not BE YOU VALUE YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION walk away from people who don't like you as you are
     
  4. SaturnsSun

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    Do you think you’re a sex addict? There are meetings for that.
     
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  5. GA93JDeereboy

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    Well I wanted to update this here. I ended up seeing 2 more escorts. They were nice ladies. The first was very nice, but the problem was it was just to quick.
    She was smiley and very easy going but was sort of controlling when it went to the bedroom. I told her about me feeling guilty for the paying for it. But she said she has a choice so not to feel bad. Either way I was pretty depressed after leaving her. Like badly.

    Now I met a really nice lady tonight. Now depends on how it goes from here. We did spend a while on the phone before she came but anyway I try to before I meet any girl, or escort I try to see if we are somewhat compatible. It was nice, but I mean I have a bit of a past with this stuff and finding escorts like her are really few. Escorts are people like you all are here on the forum. I may not speak to her again but I had fun meeting and talking and stuff instead of the usual wam and bam and bye.
    However although it was fun I still got to knock this thing. I did mention to her my issue with escorts. I may not see or talk to her again. I have met some nice escorts as well but then their is no contact. Their is only one lady I met who I keep touch with, she is now more a friend then anything. I don't see her much at all, but we text and she gives me advice but you know to stop this escort thing her point of view is that their isn't anything wrong go figure. So I mean i'm hearing many different angles on yes stop or no it is ok.
    I spent a bit of money, 4 instances in a short time that money add up a lot. I think of all the money I could have saved. But this last lady was nice, wasn't a theif or said wasn't into drugs, just had some crap happen and trying to make some money by the sound of it. But she was nice and stuff.
    I mean I still see this as a problem, so much wasted time texting and crap. I want to find a girlfriend instead. I'm sure when that happens this will be all toast. Maybe need to get on social media. Cause most of these dating apps suck. Idk, i'm confused guys, always looking for someone who has their head on right as mine isn't at this time.
     
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  6. fredisthebes

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    It's sweet that you open up to the escorts, but if you are looking for someone to help you get over your escort addiction - you are talking to the wrong people! It is their livelihood after all :)

    Get yourself on dating site of your choice and go on a date, then another and then another. Some will go badly, and most won't end in sex, but you are interacting with women the way you are supposed to. They are all after a similar thing to you, and pretty soon you will click with someone. A proper connection with a women who truly desires you is much better than a hooker - even one that returns your texts :)
     
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  7. FellatiousD

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    I think @need4realchg might be able to help you out. He was doing the whole escort thing and it cost him a lot of money.
     
  8. GA93JDeereboy

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    i might get on facebook, that's where i hear alot of people meeting now.
     
  9. GA93JDeereboy

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    maybe @need4realch can chime in. I like to hear from people who beat this or are helpful.
     
  10. Roady

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    Why don't you spend your next money to a therapist in stead of to the next escort girl?
     
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  11. GA93JDeereboy

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    you may be right, but the thing i see it is most people don't give a rats a** about you, all they want is your money. Idk, I myself haven't ever seen one, don't know about doing it.
    I think i need to fix this myself but maybe i'm a bit nuts. Just still thinking about seeing her again. Ya, idk guys. Yikes.
     
  12. GA93JDeereboy

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    Ya your may be right, therapist is probably cheaper but I seriously got to get my head together. It's such a sensitive thing and i haven't told my family, idk what they would think of me if i were to admit it. I have an idea they may know. I mean this isn't the life i want to live, i want to be that guy who has his sh** together and has his finances together. I do have some money which is why it really isn't a big deal for me to pay her but that digs into my checkbook. I really need to find a regular girl, i need to change, i'm on this forumn and you only see my screen name because i don't want to reveal my identity and lose my career. I have messaged a few people on here before but most of them drop off, or they close their account. I been on here for over a year now.
     
  13. GA93JDeereboy

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    from a guy who hasn't been in a real relationship, the first chick i met who we sorta had a thing but she was with other guys so idk, and i'm still trying to get over her but i still want to be back with her again. I want to show up when i am better and none of this stuff is in my life and be a clean dude with his act together and just not sure.
     
  14. Roady

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    Well for sure that counts for the escort ladies. Théy don't give a shit about you.

    A task of a good therapist is not to care about you, but to help you to care about yourself. But right, it can be tough to find a good one.
    But to overcome your escort addiction, you have to (HAVE TO) open up to people. The more you keep it a secret, the more you will be able to feed your addiction.
    Writing here on the forum can help as well.
    What also helps is to read about certain themes, about the real issues.


    I hope you ll come to the point where you will be able to stretch your back, make a firm decision and stay determined to stick with it.
     
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  15. Roady

    Roady Fapstronaut

    Did you search for his journal already?
     
  16. GA93JDeereboy

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    I’ll look thanks
     
  17. Demodectic

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    If you make so much money that the escort fee does not harm you too badly then that means you have enough money to find several dates. I think instead of spending the money on therapist you should buy some book on "Pick up artist" such as 3% man by Corey Wayne and also check out this other guy on YouTube "The33Secrets".

    My problem that i cant find a date is because I am 50 lbs too skinny and also I am financially broke. But if you have either good looks or plenty of cash then you will be able to date. Most women care more about CASH then about looks. If you willing to spend $200 on each date you should be able to get laid at least once per week. But read the books/Youtube advice so you can actually get the girl to show up for first date.
     
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  18. GA93JDeereboy

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    I read Corey Wayne 3% man, wasn’t a bad
    read
     
  19. Demodectic

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    You know the idea of an escort does not sound that bad. I havent utilized one in over 4 years because I had a bad experience the last time (girl was ugly, smelled bad "down there" and rushed me) and the price was over $150

    Still I am too cheap to spend so much money and especially with no guarantee of outcome (sometimes a completely different girl than the picture shows up). The last time it was a 250 lb woman, a real Heffer with cottage cheese thighs
     
  20. GA93JDeereboy

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    Ya an experience like that is good bc it keeps you away. Most experiences are not that good. Combined with my morals it doesn’t mix at all.
    I think I did my last stint on searching for one last night. I’m going to consider going to a therapist. Although I feel ok right now, or when I go to the therapist I may be ok at that moment, I will need their direction.
    Haven’t ever seen one before but I plan on letting the cat out of the bag and hope they will help me or open my mind to beating this junk
     

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