Mid 20s - suffering with depression

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by James271993, Jul 11, 2020.

  1. James271993

    James271993 Fapstronaut

    My reasons for joining nofap are because I've been suffering from depression for about the last year after my first love left me, and that has affected my libido and the enjoyment levels I used to get from porn and masturbation. I do not have an issue climaxing when I do masturbate but my erection is not as strong and neither is the ejaculation. I am also disappointed in myself after the event. For as long as I can remember I haven't been able to climax without porn or a sexual partner. I have only had 2 sexual partners in my lifetime and have had issues with both on the first few occasions with maintaining erection and reaching climax but this seemed to resolve itself as I became more comfortable with the partner. At this moment, I find myself thinking about porn a lot as I've gone from watching it several times a day to 0. However, I do not experience the same physical activity as I would previously. I think porn has also given me an unrealistic idea on what an attractive women looks like so I am very picky with women I'm attracted to in real life which has made it hard to find a new partner. I want to be able to enjoy a healthy sex life with a new partner and I want to get out and meet someone rather than just being content with being single and masturbating every night. Sorry, bit of a ramble! Thankful for any thoughts/advice.
     
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  2. Hi welcome to NoFap James. First off porn and masturbating will only make your erections worse. You need to refrain from watching and masturbating to get your sensitivity back. Also are you getting some sort of physical activity? Depression lives when you are stagnant and not doing anything. Its important to be proactive and do things that will boost your mood. Lastly, perhaps you are going through depression because you have not found a healthy replacement for porn and masturbating. I think you should practice NoFap and see where this takes you.
     
  3. James271993

    James271993 Fapstronaut

    So I've now gone 2 weeks without watching any porn and have gone 1 week without maturbating. It is on my mind often at the moment because going that long without is a big change for me. Yes, I'm very active. I train 5 or 6 times a week and consider myself physically fit. I think the depression stems from the rejection of the relationship rather than porn or masturbation but I think porn is holding me back from meeting someone new. It's sort of like a comfort blanket that is easily accessible and gives instant gratification which I don't think is good for me in my current state. When I was content in the relationship I watched porn probably a few times a week and masturbated each time without any issues to be sex drive or desire for my partner but my sex drive and libido has been negatively impacted by my depression so I think trying to practice NoFap can hopefully help me get my sex drive back. Also, have confidence and body image issues stemming from the relationship breakdown so that might be contributing to the libido issues.
     
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