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  1. Archibald Quimbleton

    Archibald Quimbleton New Fapstronaut

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    Do any of you guys have a problem with just habitually masturbating? I used to look at porn back in the day, but have since stopped. However, I keep ending up masturbating to fantasies in my head. I hate it though. I can end up going on a day long masturbation bender, which always leaves me with a splitting headache and a brain fog feeling. How do you combat this, and how do you block porn in your head?
     
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  2. Dead Kennedy

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    To be honest there is no "blocking porn" from your head, its having the willpower to overcome the impulses you get from thinking about it. Youre dealing with (what I would concider) the most difficult part of nofap, thankfully though, youre on a website that provides hundreds of answers to thid very problem. From Cold showers, exercise, reading, dieting, and otherwise occupying your mind. To answer your problem though I would say looking up diffrent methods to get you "out of the mood" so to speak. When I get a serious urge I try to do as much pushups as I can and go straight to the shower (nothing kills the mood like cold water) when you find what works for you, keep at it and eventually your mind will recognize these urges and it will be much easier to ignore them. I also think meditation would work wonders as it brings you into a present moment. Best of luck to you friend!
     
  3. The sun is the limit

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    A day long masturbation sounds too long to be healthy. I read somewhere (think it was Mantak Chia) that you should not exceed a 15-20 Minute erection. Longer seems not to be healthy for your penis, or take a break in between, when having sex with your partner
     
  4. Clarke

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    Idk how you can masterbate without porn. I started doing not using porn and ended up doing nofap because it was too boring to fap without porn.
     
  5. BDub13

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    I agree wholeheartedly and would add reminders of why u want to abstain as in post it notes or mantras etc. I do my push-ups WHILE reciting calm my body enrich my spirit over and over
     
  6. Perfetto_iN_2743

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    I have the same problem. I do not watch porn, but I draw a picture in my head
     
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  7. ReclaimedLife

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    The problem with masturbation is that we super easily fall back into imagining something LIKE the stuff we see in porn. We imagine having sex with the cute girl we see in school/uni/gym/at work/on the street...

    And that imagination probably looks pretty similar to what we see in porn, making the recovery next to impossible, since you still feed the brain with similar pictures.

    The only way to masturbate that i see is to do it with almost no imagination about girls, super slow strokes and super light touch. And you can also never have an orgasm while doing it.
    Unless you can masturbate like that, DONT do it.
    And who wants to masturbate wihout thinking about porn-like sex with random or known girls, only with light touch and knowing that you can never orgasm?

    The problem isnt the masturbation. Its the thing that you loose the energy provided with the semen retention, on top of the high chance of falling back into watching porn very easily, or creating similar images in your head.

    Be strong through this hard time, it can be super difficult, but if you are able to push through, you WILL be rewarded.

    ITS HARD. ITS REALLY FUCKING HARD. WE ARE ALL HERE TO ASSIST EACH OTHER IN GETTING THROUGH THIS TOUGH TIME
     
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  8. The fantasies might be the most difficult part. Try to keep a blank mind similar to meditation and focus on your breathing during sex and during self stimulation.
     
  9. ReclaimedLife

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    Trying to keep a blank mind while having sex.
    Good luck with that:emoji_laughing::emoji_laughing::emoji_laughing:
     
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  10. You know I am referring to not entertaining porn thoughts. Just be in the moment of what is happening right now. Ha ha maybe the way I said it made it seem silly.
     
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  11. ReclaimedLife

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    "Not entertaining porn thoughts" Wtf are porn thoughts while you are already having sex?:emoji_laughing::emoji_laughing:
     
  12. Past or future or fantasy rather than real, now.
     
  13. ReclaimedLife

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    I gotcha. So what you are saying is

    "be in the moment with the girl and find a way to make it beautiful for both of you, it doesn't matter if you guys fuck like pornstars or have passionate sex in missionary with strong eye contact and a lot of kissing"

    Did i get this right"
     
  14. @ReclaimedLife yes. You can have sexual thoughts. And sexual conversations. But stay present.
     
  15. ReclaimedLife

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    Being present is what makes the moment beautiful.
    All you need to do is looking in a beautiful woman's eyes, come closer, start stroking her cheek, get close enough, so she starts feeling your warm breath on her lips, wait for 10-20 seconds, close your eyes, and if she cant take the waiting time anymore, kiss her tenderly.

    There you go. One beautiful way to kiss a girl with intimacy and passion.
     
  16. Captain!

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    How bout no masterbation at all cause we have wet dreams to assist us anyway.
     
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  17. ReclaimedLife

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    You are rigth with this and i think for the healthiest recovery, it is probably the best to not M(O) for the first 90-120 days, or however long it takes until the person doing it can have normal, healthy erections with a girl/wamen of his choice. Or she regained her sensibility so she can be nomally aroused by touch again.
     
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