If I could chime in here for a second, I have a bit of standing in this realm. It is VERY possible that he has no desire to do this anymore. Its also very possible that he has the desire and is controlling himself, and its also very possible you are right and he is just doing it in secret. I know that isn't very reassuring but all three of those things could have been true at one time or another. I know they were for me. Before our last D-Day, @GID2020 knew I looked at porn, she also knew that I searched up actresses to see if they had done any nude scenes in movies. I thought I was hiding it well but I wasn't. When we started sobriety on Oct 6th, I still had the desire to look up someone naked, but I worked really hard to control myself. Now that we are entering, and I mean at the very beginning of recovery, I don't really think about it anymore. There are a lot of things that turned me on at one time or another during porn use that don't anymore. If you go to the Problematic Sexual Behavior Board you will see many there talk about gay, tranny or other extreme porn and confusion as to why they like it because they are none of those things. Many who successfully get away from it, are no longer attracted to that genre of arousal. If you haven't yet, go watch Your Brain On Porn. It does a great job explaining why all the things I have said are true. I will say that nudity was a big one for me. That's what excited me the most. I think because my sexual growth was stunted at the age that is arousing (12-13) though many embarrassing moments getting caught with playboy and penthouse magazines by mother. As I am doing more digging, revenge for those that wronged/embarrased me seems to be a big underlying reason for my tastes and what excited me. I understand what your husband felt. Its a compulsion that is hard to control. I think if he starts to understand where that comes from it will help.