Motivation and willpower thread

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Targaryenn, May 26, 2020.

  1. Targaryenn

    Targaryenn Fapstronaut

    What keep you motivated to do nofap?
    Sometimes I don't have enough motivation and I fall.
  2. Yes, you have enough motivation. We all have the same amount. But we must develop it. This takes energy and practice. When you fall or fail, you need to have the energy to get back up and try again. Never sit around and wonder why you fell, because nobody cares. Get back up and try again.
  3. Finalito

    Finalito Fapstronaut

    Well, I don't have enough motivation.

    But I still want to do it.
    So I removed all the internet / multimedia devices from my home.

    I only use smartphone, computer, tablet etc in my office.

    Works from me. Porn free for 20 days!
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  4. Whybemad

    Whybemad New Fapstronaut

    Masturbation is something that cheats the most fundamental impulses of human beings. In the end, it becomes an evil circle. I masturbated because I was addicted, after the deed I couldn't at all relate to how I felt during the masturbation. The next day, I'd do the same thing again. This was really frightening since it told me that impulses were more controlling than my own free will.

    My motivation comes from my will of wanting to stand by my belief that life is more than just chasing our desires. I believe there are things in life that are holy which have an intrinsic value. Masturbation is something that derails me from this belief as I start chasing this constant temporary climax. In the end, this climax becomes so important I lose focus of everything else.

    Many times, I think faith is involved. I'm agnostic but my faith in the belief that life has a greater meaning, helps me see that masturbation is something that derail us all away from our true selves. We can't let impulses control who we are. We must be better than that. We are intelligent human beings capable of incredible feats and thoughts.

    Sorry for my english, it's not my first language.
  5. Brother - you had the good sense to ditch the internet & devices from your home. 20 days free! You DO have motivation! Nice going! Keep it up!
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  6. Whybemad

    Whybemad New Fapstronaut

    ^^^THIS ^^^
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  7. Finalito

    Finalito Fapstronaut

    Hey @Ogikubo

    Thanks for your words :)

    Yes, I do have some deeper motivation which made me take this drastic step of removing electronics from my home.

    But that is probably one of the most drastic measures one can take. What I meant with not having motivation was that I literally had to force myself to take this drastic step.

    Without it, I would be sitting at home and fapping like a water fountain.

    So for me, a part of the journey was accepting that I am in fact powerless over my addictions. Before I had two 50+days long streaks, but then I always failed. With this system I really feel that I can go on indefinitely.

    So yes, my motivation is strong enough to take drastic measures, but it is not strong enough for me to remain strong in ordinary circumstances.

    Which one is better?
    Who knows.
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  8. DyingStar

    DyingStar Fapstronaut

    Motivation for me to not PMO is to stop wasting countless hours binging or thinking of PMO. To get rid of the nasty fetishes induced by PMO, and to grow as an individual. I can't do that if I keep shooting myself in the foot and relapse. As far as willpower goes, I'm leaning on this forum and some emergency videos for strength when the urges are severe, but on my longest streak, which was only 38 days, willpower hadn't been an issue, as I had just observed my urges and distanced my mind from what the cravings. I'm trying to fall back in line with that way of thinking. If you think about it, this really shouldn't be hard we simply have to not watch porn and fap.
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  9. I'm inspired to stop wasting time and focus on something that will get me further in life. Have a nephew now and I want him to look up to me in the future. Today I need to focus and stop edging...My willpower has decreased the past few months. My ability to talk to woman is non existent right now. Especially with the young gals at my job. They seem more then uselessly interested in me.
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  10. :)-keepsmiling

    :)-keepsmiling Fapstronaut

    I think motivation as some kind of a battery. It is our driving source to do our work. My motivation is to become a better personality in the future. I have goals and aspirations that I had for my childhood. I will think of my childhood days to get motivation. I used to work towards my goals back then but unfortunately I hit PMO and I went in the wrong direction. I will not want to disappoint the child me on my aspirations and goals. It feels really depressing.
    When I get urges, I remember something more important that if not done will cause myself to be emotionally upset. Obously everyone do not want to be emotionally disappointed right. It causes a lot of pain!!! Like this I remind myself and things work!!
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  11. rikityrik

    rikityrik Fapstronaut

    I wouldn't try to get motivation from short-term resources. Literally, sit down with a piece of paper and pen. Make two columns. Left side says life with fap, right says life with nofap. and then at the end of the column, you write about your future self that would be a result of either one of the two columns. once you get to your future self with fap and future self with NoFap, you would want to choose the self with NoFap any day of the week. that motivation will be long-lasting. I guarantee. and then keep that piece of paper on the sidetable next to your bed (or wherever you are the most prone to fap), and whenever you're getting urges and you're about to reach down your pants with your hands, take a deep breath and pick up that piece of paper and read it again and visualise your future self with fap and with NoFap again. Your future self with fap will disgust you. That motivation, like I said, will be long lasting
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