Music and PMO

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Burgundy_Outlier, Jun 24, 2019.

  1. Burgundy_Outlier

    Burgundy_Outlier Fapstronaut

    Quick question of the day:

    Does music really affect who you are? Does sexual music affect your PMO mind?

    I'll keep this short, I listen to many "sexual" artists, mostly in the electronic and R&B genres. I'm not talking about those "rappers." (If you know rap lyrical content, then you know what I mean. I still listen to them, but definitely, definitely not as much.)

    Here's the thing: as of lately I really haven't listened to that kind of music, I only listen to their tamed, love songs. And I still PMO. Is there a correlation? I believe there is, but only a little, I just wanna see what others think.
     
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  2. sjaakieplof2014

    sjaakieplof2014 Fapstronaut

    My brother is a musical therapist and from what I've learned, music has great influence on you.
    From my own experience, I know that it definitely fiddled with emotions. I used to listen to a crapton of sad music and I didn't think it influenced me much but after many awful depressive episodes, I wondered if listening to only happy music would help.
    I tried this and it did help. Ofcourse didn't cure anything, but the music had often pushed my thoughts into pity party places and now it didn't.
    I think the same could be in your case. I'd say try not listening to it for a month or so and see if you notice any difference.
    And even if you PMO during this little experiment, doesn't disprove it. Just analyze if your old music caused you to be tempted more.
    There's a good chance that it put images and feelings in your head that tempted you.
    Keep me updated on the results. I'm curious
    And goodluck on your PMO battle
     
  3. NamaClature14

    NamaClature14 Fapstronaut

    @Burgundy_Outlier Although i'm not a musical therapist or a neurologist by any means, i am a musician who has toured a few times and have delved into anything music related i can get my hands on. I live it and love it.
    There is absolutely a reason that the "mainstream radio" is so tightly controlled, consisting of artists that are picked and created rather than discovered for their latent talent and ambition. what does this have to do w/ anything?

    There is immense power and direct correlation behind the delivery of syncopated frequencies, rhythm, lyrics and the subconscious mind. People can be made to hold any number or viewpoints, beliefs, attitudes or emotions from music alone if they are not alert and aware of it. Add in alcohol or/and kind of drug and they are like putty in your hand if your good. You can make people angry, happy, sad, horny, anything with music.
    The human body emits brain waves and frequencies of it's own and in fact on a much deeper level everything in the entire existence that can be measured as various frequencies oscillating at it's fundamental level.

    soooo TL;DR Music absolutely can and will effect a human being> one of the most common elementary science experiments is exposing plants to music and watching the difference in growth.

    There is music played during holidays proven to influence people to buy more.
    There is music played during scary movies to feel people with fear.
    There is music played on the radio to influence people party and f*** on the weekends, and forget about self control or consequence.
    There is music that indulges people's anger and hate, fueling it.

    likewise there is music that intices the opposite of all those things, happiness, joy, peace, love.

    Sound is the very fabric of this existence and music is intricately tied to both emotions and memory.

    There is a man named Oliver Sacks(rest in peace) who did a deep study into music and people with dementia, it will fascinate you what his conclusions are.
     
  4. Newlife33

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    I'm a singer/songwriter and I can say that the music I make is a direct reflection of my mood. In my 20's I had really depressed and sad songs that I would sing and create. Then when I was recovering and healing I couldn't really do anything. Now that I am getting happier my music is the same.
     
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  5. 7WolfOfWallStreet

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    Very good post , I like it .

    Actually there is a straight connection between dopamine release and music , as well as lucky games , drugs , porn etc.

    The first thing that we notice is that it can make you addicted to it .

    I've seen a study witch says that after some concerts with Death Metal Music some participants attempted to suicide .

    I think that music affects us much more than we think .
     
  6. leppardfan25

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    As my name shows,I love rock and heavy metal music,and now Im trying to use it to disctract my thoughts and it gives a dopamine bomb too I guess. I think it really effects people and can help a lot to recover. Some rock music is about never giving up,live your life free, and you know there are lot of shit behind you,just chin up and go on your own path.
     
  7. Anonymous86

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    Does anyone else here find that music while heavily desensitized by porn or if you're in a flatline, feels less impactful and less enjoyable?
     
  8. Newlife33

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    yes. When I use everything is less enjoyable for like the next four days.
     
  9. LaFlame92100

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    I mean , you can listen to sexual music when you have a gf too... but if you pmo/ porn addicted this music will most def trigger you

    And if you want you want to avoid sexuality altogether .. nearly impossible , like just going outside, seeing good looking girls, social media, the worst part , so many triggers everywhere
     
  10. Anonymous86

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    When you use? You mean porn right?
     
  11. Newlife33

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    Yes. When I use porn I find the effects are exponential. Everytime I use I make a deal with the devil to make me feel ok for five minutes in exchange for 3 days of horrific shame and numbness.
     
  12. NamaClature14

    NamaClature14 Fapstronaut

    WOW, i don't think I've ever seen anybody state it more accurately. This is exactly how i feel after a relapse. Then the rest of the week is trying to get back to my bright outgoing self, so not fucking worth it.
     
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  13. ZenAF

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    Eric Prydz - Call On Me ! xD
    I enjoy music that teases me. It's like watching Game of Thrones. It's art, not porn. I don't care how triggering it is. These things are fun to enjoy and they don't make me relapse. You know why? Because relapses have NOTHING to do with you being triggered and EVERYTHING to do with you not willing to actually make a fcking sacrifice.
     
  14. Burgundy_Outlier

    Burgundy_Outlier Fapstronaut

    Bro, I ain't gonna lie. Not listening to music in this modern world is kinda hard. lmao

    I actually wanted to try this challenge, but it's really hard haha. Although, I've been listening to my native language's music and happy English songs in general though, so, I'm not worried about NoFap (at least I know the urges are coming though.)
     
  15. jk243

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    I mean music can influence your behaviors ... that why I try to not listen to explicit lyrics and a huge fan of conscious and christian rap.
     
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  16. leppardfan25

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    Maybe Im not the only one,but music can't trigger me somehow...It gives me chill and calms me down,but also fills me with energy. Songs like "Harder faster" by W.A.S.P. or "Let it go" by Def Leppard can't trigger me, even they are about sex. Being triggered by music somehow sounds to me like "I have to point my finger onto something to blame for my relapse".
     
  17. Anonymous86

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    Music isn't going to ruin your dopamine receptors like Porn does. I dunno where the hell people get this from.
     
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  18. Burgundy_Outlier

    Burgundy_Outlier Fapstronaut

    I agree, I can't seem to get triggered from even the most explicit of songs from metal to modern rap.

    I believe visual stimuli (a crucial part of porn) is required, or something like that idk.
     
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  19. leppardfan25

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    It doesnt even need to see something porn-related thing, its enough to think about it for a second,and urges are coming immidiately (at least in my case this is the situation). And this is the time to listen to something motivating. Usually it helps me to defeat urges ( I discovered this method to help with urges,so far it works very well).
     
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  20. Burgundy_Outlier

    Burgundy_Outlier Fapstronaut

    We seem to be polar opposites when it comes to urges.

    Unfortunately for me, listening to motivation-like videos and audio do not work for me, in fact I know I'm going to relapse that day if I attempt to divert my urges like that. It's that bad for me. I'm glad I realized that relapse pattern for me.

    My urges come in a time frame of 5 minutes if I get stuck in my head, imagining stuff that goes from nice and natural to something more dark and disgusting.

    But hey, if that works for you, then keep on going with it. :)
     

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