FormerFapaholic
Fapstronaut
SINCE quitting PMO, I have started to enjoy and appreciate the simple things in life. Especially what I have right in front of me. Reading books, walking the dog, having a coffee, but music and art are the things I’ve always enjoyed. Especially on the creative and emotional side of it.
I’m probably going to be turning into – and sounding like – a grumpy old prude as I write this. I saw a number of music videos by chance, when my brother’s girlfriend wanted to put the music channels on as we played drinking games on Christmas Day with the family. It really dawned on me on how overly sexual music videos have become from the clarity I've gained over time from quitting PMO.
To some extent, there has always been some sexual element to the lyrics of many songs. But on the videos of songs for years have been subtle and tastefully done. Usually in a playful, and tongue-in-cheek manner. The romance in it makes it somewhat, sweet and innocent. Especially in contrast to more recent music videos.
But in recent years, many record labels, producers, even the artists, like to push boundaries. On how far they can go when they use – and even sexually exploit people on music videos. It’s all cynically done for the sake of publicity. As a means of getting the hits on YouTube, thus more people downloading and listening to the music. They’re quids* in and laughing all the way to the bank.
I’m reaching a conclusion that music videos in recent times has become watered down pornography. Where there are scantily clad women – sometimes the artists themselves – with their provocative moves as well, leaving nothing or little to the imagination. I get the impression that the music industry is using – and even exploiting people – for ratings. The objectification of women, by using their sexuality rather than use the artists’ musical skills, raw talent and creativity to sell records. It epitomises on what’s wrong with modern-day music to a wider extent. You can write a list of artists longer than your arm that do this.
Rap and hip-hop music videos have been the worst offenders for being too sexual. But mainstream and manufactured pop music are just as bad. Though, rock, heavy metal and punk rock music have their fair share of videos using women (or even men) as sex objects too. The sad reality is that sex sells. No wonder porn is a multi-billion-dollar industry as much I hate to know and accept this sickening fact itself.
But the real concern is that too many children get exposed to the explicit material that music videos have become in epidemic proportions. It can deprive them of having a good childhood. Where they should be happy, innocent and carefree.
What’s worse is that there are children and adolescents that do look up to these artists. That can have an adverse effect on their development and well-being. Put them under pressure to look, behave or act a certain way just to fit in. That condition them in doing it as a means of seeking validation. Also, if it’s OK to act and behave like this, then it’s alright for me to be like him or her. See what I mean?
Don’t get me wrong. I love and appreciate a woman’s sexuality – and sex itself. I’m all for freedom of expression per se. But if you want to express or flaunt your sexuality. Surely there’s a time and a place for that, right?
*Quid - slang term for money in British English for the pound/sterling currency. Like bucks is for dollars in the United States and Australia.
I’m probably going to be turning into – and sounding like – a grumpy old prude as I write this. I saw a number of music videos by chance, when my brother’s girlfriend wanted to put the music channels on as we played drinking games on Christmas Day with the family. It really dawned on me on how overly sexual music videos have become from the clarity I've gained over time from quitting PMO.
To some extent, there has always been some sexual element to the lyrics of many songs. But on the videos of songs for years have been subtle and tastefully done. Usually in a playful, and tongue-in-cheek manner. The romance in it makes it somewhat, sweet and innocent. Especially in contrast to more recent music videos.
But in recent years, many record labels, producers, even the artists, like to push boundaries. On how far they can go when they use – and even sexually exploit people on music videos. It’s all cynically done for the sake of publicity. As a means of getting the hits on YouTube, thus more people downloading and listening to the music. They’re quids* in and laughing all the way to the bank.
I’m reaching a conclusion that music videos in recent times has become watered down pornography. Where there are scantily clad women – sometimes the artists themselves – with their provocative moves as well, leaving nothing or little to the imagination. I get the impression that the music industry is using – and even exploiting people – for ratings. The objectification of women, by using their sexuality rather than use the artists’ musical skills, raw talent and creativity to sell records. It epitomises on what’s wrong with modern-day music to a wider extent. You can write a list of artists longer than your arm that do this.
Rap and hip-hop music videos have been the worst offenders for being too sexual. But mainstream and manufactured pop music are just as bad. Though, rock, heavy metal and punk rock music have their fair share of videos using women (or even men) as sex objects too. The sad reality is that sex sells. No wonder porn is a multi-billion-dollar industry as much I hate to know and accept this sickening fact itself.
But the real concern is that too many children get exposed to the explicit material that music videos have become in epidemic proportions. It can deprive them of having a good childhood. Where they should be happy, innocent and carefree.
What’s worse is that there are children and adolescents that do look up to these artists. That can have an adverse effect on their development and well-being. Put them under pressure to look, behave or act a certain way just to fit in. That condition them in doing it as a means of seeking validation. Also, if it’s OK to act and behave like this, then it’s alright for me to be like him or her. See what I mean?
Don’t get me wrong. I love and appreciate a woman’s sexuality – and sex itself. I’m all for freedom of expression per se. But if you want to express or flaunt your sexuality. Surely there’s a time and a place for that, right?
*Quid - slang term for money in British English for the pound/sterling currency. Like bucks is for dollars in the United States and Australia.
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