My 60 Day in Review

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  1. randomname3

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    It's hard to believe I'm already over 2/3 of the way through my 90 reboot journey. Long story short, my previous record by a long shot was 30 days clean last year. After that streak I still easily halved my weekly PMO rate. And this year, approximately 60 days ago, I realized I was ready and willing to commit to the full 90 days. It sort of felt like the journey was calling to me more than anything.
    It's sort of hard to describe, but it's like I have this feeling of love and accomplishment welling up in me as I write this from managing to stay true to my commitment. I'd say that's already enough reason to do this: because following through on tough a commitment feels good.
    This second month of the journey was a lot easier than the first from a physical standpoint: I had just discovered and activated Jesus-mode, refusing to let myself look or think on anything in lust. My withdrawal also ended around day 30, so the no PMO part became second nature.
    But life isn't that simple. With the PMO eliminated, I had no more shield between myself and real world stress and sadness. I was forgetting and mixing up dates and having almost no motivation to do anything, not to mention general sadness and uneasiness at this transition period in my life.
    However, just this last week, I finally got to the right place over days of soul searching to realize just how responsible I am for my own sadness and loneliness and for never yet getting a girlfriend. When I saw how huge my own responsibility was in all this, I was able to reverse-engineer a 12 item list of my own flawed behaviors at the root of these failures. Then I began building a list good counter-behaviors for each of the 12 items.

    Now I've got these items all right there in the palm of my hand with the needed counter-behaviors to replace them, and now that I've got that extra will power built up, I'm finally starting to make real progress turning my life around and becoming a real man.

    Highlights from this past week:
    A shyness complex has always been a big issue for me, but I started up a good conversation with a major community figure on the street I'd only been briefly introduced to last year. I'm also very nervous to sing in front of people, but for about first time ever I pulled out my guitar and sang for the family and we all had a great sing along. In the grocery store I saw a girl I'd been crushing on from a previous job whom I'd almost never said a word to. I just said hi and asked if she still worked there. Instead of brushing me off, she sort of ignored the older guy she'd been talking to was surprisingly interested to talk to me, so that turned into about a 5 minute conversation. I was a little unprepared for the great response and feel like I should've asked her out for coffee, any advice is appreciated. I saw she's currently with someone, but I'm still feeling pretty good just for being able to approach and really talk to her.

    Well, that about sums up my second 30 days, and it's getting late. G'night brothers, stay strong!
     
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  2. homo_sapien the 7th

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    Well Done brother. Keep up the same pace. I don't know what to say about the girl. Because for me at this period, same thoughts were clouding together to rain like love . But it's just the brain saying - "Bruh you got a chance mahn accept it she is a good match for you". :emoji_slight_smile: But wait for few more days,if you have same thoughts, then you can rethink about the topic.
     
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  3. SirErnest

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    Just what I needed to hear!
    Congratulations and thanks.
     
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  4. Much Ado About Nutting

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    Glad you talked to that girl. Keep putting yourself out there. If you want a girlfriend you'll have to keep doing that even though it feels uncomfortable. Definitely ask for dates with the girls you talk to... and don't take it personally or get sad if they say no. Sometimes they have a boyfriend, sometimes they're busy, sometimes they're not looking, sometimes you're not their type... but if you keep talking to girls you'll find one that likes you. That's been my experience. So really perseverance and not giving up will eventually get you a girl. So this will be a big test if you're naturally shy... but you can do it. You've had good success with the no porn so now bring that success to dating. Good luck
     
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  5. randomname3

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    I was thinking about the same thing. It's like I might have 10 or 20 other people to ask before leveling up and getting a yes. And then a similar scenario for first dates and such.
     
  6. Asgardian36

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    dude....great success story.
    very happy for your progress with regard to talking to the girl n other improvement. Keep it up!!!
     
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  7. C12345

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    Can't wait until I have a 60 day badge! Congratulations.
     

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