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My biggest problem in life - Social life.

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Eroz, Oct 3, 2022.

  1. Oct 3, 2022 #1
    Eroz

    Eroz Fapstronaut

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    I am doing this to get my social life back. Right now I have no friends, possibly one that is coming in.

    I'm 195cm tall (6.inch I think)
    I'm big, muscular, get so much attention at the gym that I choose to wear a hood. I avoid people, just started at a gym where there are less people just because of girls' eyes.

    In my last gym, a girl followed me everywhere I went. I never chose to talk to her, even though she was 100% interested.

    I feel the pain would have been worse, if she had known I'm 31, living with my mom, no friends no job. But the potential is so great, if only I could open my mouth.

    I feel that, if I had had a job, my own apartment and socializing, I would probably have dared to talk to girls. But the fear of the question "What do you do then" is too great, do you live alone?

    While I'm so unsure of my size down there, I wonder if 14.5 - 15cm is something.

    Im right now doing ULTRA MONK SR MODE. Not looking, not thinking, and the issue is, the girls are getting crazy.

    To a point i can't handle it, i think once you are tall, have a nice face, they want you. But what's the point, they will leave my life, like i left all my friends, because in my world you are straight or you are not part of my life. It's usually me who pushes people away, doesn't let anyone get close to me, it's injuries from childhood. My father was an alcoholic, heavy smoker, porn addict, gambling addict, aggression problem.

    After how many days, months can I expect to see some social benefits of SR?

    I am working on my health, cold showers, interval training, food, and working on getting a job. I'm on starvation mode, succeed or die.

    How long my brothers? I really want to talk to people, girls, there are so many beautiful ones. I have never had a girlfriend in my life that I love. Although I have so many people who were interested, some were 18, some 20y.

    If only I could open my mouth.
     
    Eroz, Oct 3, 2022
    Eroz, Oct 3, 2022
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  2. Oct 3, 2022 #2
    Xue Hua Piao

    Xue Hua Piao Fapstronaut

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    Working on self improvement in general should build up your confidence.
    Tbh you sound really insecure. I don’t know your circumstances but it feels like your being incredibly harsh on yourself. I don’t see much shame in not having a job etc and your doing things to change that. Honestly, they won’t judge u anymore than u currently judge yourself.
    I also think paying to much attention to dick size is a pretty narrow way of thinking and neglects the real traits which make a likeable person.

    You need to also ask yourself why you pushed your friends away.

    Socially I’m terrible. I barely have any friends and I have a hard time stringing a conversation together but I’ve been subjecting myself to more and more interaction to build up social confidence and it really fucking works.

    if you can just try and say a couple of friendly words to them and then slowly you’ll be more open to socialising with them m. Positive conditioning and shit. If they look down in you (which tbh I strongly doubt) then they do but you have the respect and dignity of trying in the first place.
     
    Xue Hua Piao, Oct 3, 2022
    Xue Hua Piao, Oct 3, 2022
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