Buddy, one piece of advice. With a woman, complimenting and praising gives them motivation. Stating what's wrong with them hurts them. They're feminine, not masculine. Criticism causes most of them to close. Even implicit criticism. Praise leads them to radiance, energy and motivation. Don't take my word for it. Try praising your wife for something small about her appearance. Some one small thing you can still enjoy. Even her ankles or her nipples or lips. Praise her body, repeatedly. Praise her energy and light, repeatedly. Do this consistently for at least two weeks, and see what happens.