I gave it up already. No need for a second partner, no serious relationship. You can do as much self work for yourself at the end it won't happen man, it simply wont. My pessimism saved probably my ass through all the years. I know men who are still paying alimony like my neighbour do. He lives next to my house and became an Alcohol Adict-half of his income goes to his 3 sons until their 25th birthday. Justice huh?