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My experience of 20 days no pmo before relapse

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Thrivelife, Aug 25, 2015.

  1. Aug 25, 2015 #1
    Thrivelife

    Thrivelife Fapstronaut

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    Hey all,

    I just relapsed after 20 days pmo free and wanted to write the changes I've noticed. First off, I am dating someone and was sexually intimate with her 5x in this 20 days. She's away for 6 weeks and that's why I relapsed. Moving on....

    - my energy returned as opposed to being more of a shell around friends, fam and the girl I'm seeing.
    - my personality was more radiant, present and held its own better
    - my erections returned to 90-100% from 60% hard which happened much sooner then expected and was amazing
    - my mind was clearer and better from more energy

    - something unexpected, once my erections returned my erogenous zones became hypersensitive and I couldn't recieve oral sex without fighting back intense laughter

    - sex and intimacy were light years better. I can't express this enough.

    Last, part of storing up higher amounts of sexual energy then we're accustomed to is creating new ways to allocate it .... Hobbies, activities or working out. I think dating is also helpful for this process.

    Last, 20 days no pmo was better in my experience then my previous run of 35 days no p, but still Ming - and o-ing moderately,while not dating.
     
    Thrivelife, Aug 25, 2015
    Thrivelife, Aug 25, 2015
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  2. Aug 25, 2015 #2
    Thrivelife

    Thrivelife Fapstronaut

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    still relapsing hard -- day 3. :/. feeling very helpless. could really use a solid ap.
     
    Thrivelife, Aug 25, 2015
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  3. Aug 26, 2015 #3
    jatar

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    Hey man, sorry to hear about your relapses. Pick yourself up and keep trying. You had some long streaks, so you have what it takes to make it, just stay focused on the goal. When in doubt, come back to the post you wrote in this thread about the benefits to remind yourself of what you're aiming for. The positive feelings and energy are worth the momentary discomfort of fighting an urge.

    Remember that hard mode, which is what you're going for now that your GF is away, is a bit different animal. You won't get any sexual release, so the urges will hit pretty hard after a few days. Be ready for them, because you won't be able to rely on willpower alone to fight them. A good method is to have a contingency plan in place for when they do come. Take a cold shower, go for a walk etc. The urges will tend to subside once you get your mind off them.

    Check out your thread about AP - a few people agreed to be your APs.
     
    jatar, Aug 26, 2015
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