My Fetish, it's time to shine a light on the darkness

[Deleted Account]

Hello I'm a sex addict my fetish is deep throat, the rough type that plagues pornsites and my mind, I feel that I need to admit this to be able to move on, I feel so ashamed of myself after I watch these scenes and I'm very happy that I haven't binged with porn for well over a year now, even though my mind feels littered with this poison I know I am making steps to cure myself, I told my wife of my struggle a year ago, but she thinks I've cure myself like I did with alcohol but sadly that's not the case and its crept back hense why I am back on here to try and shine a light on this bad habit and fetish of mine, this is completely a online fantasy as if never and never have done this fetish in the real world, if anyone is struggling with the same horrible fetish join me and let's succeed together, or if anyone knows about this fetish and the reasons why, please feel free to share your knowledge it may save someone's life. Peace and love to you all.

 

[The Watcher]

in my opinion it will not go away with abstaining from pornography because it is a psychological error, you can abstain from porn as much as you want but it will still inside you. you must cut off the root of it from inside you.

 

[Immature]

in my opinion it will not go away with abstaining from pornography because it is a psychological error, you can abstain from porn as much as you want but it will still inside you. you must cut off the root of it from inside you.

Given the reports of many others here, if he acquired it from watching porn, it may very well go away if he stays away from porn.

 

[The Watcher]

Given the reports of many others here, if he acquired it from watching porn, it may very well go away if he stays away from porn.

Fetish is not like any porn it is much deeper and much complicated. think about it if someone feel orgasm by watching a ten years old got rapped or a violence videos on someways this is a serious problem this is not porn anymore this is a psychological damage inside the person. I also suffer from fetish and it started with me long long time before I was introduced to pornography, abstaining alone from pornography will not cure that damage you must focus on the root of the problem you must find the golden key and change it ask yourself why. I already posted a topic here about that

 

[Deleted Account]

I think you can de-habituate to addictive thoughts by refraining from acting -- i.e. thinking and behaving -- over a long time. It then becomes a willpower problem. The best technique is to notice the train of thoughts that lead up to acting on the cravings that arise from the subconscious.

But before willpower comes motivation. A person has to want to change their brain. Probably most people who aren't trying to build willpower don't think a little fapping here and there is all that bad. If a person really saw clearly it is bad, that would be a starting point for building willpower.

I'm almost tempted to suggest a book study group where we read and discuss Dracula. The parts where people lose their life and become undead after their life-force is sucked out of them by seductive vampires might be motivating.

 

[TIMMY0110]

I have a foot fetish, I like kissing a woman's feet....Feet is not the only thing I like about women. I had this fetish even before I started watching porn. Since this is not a porn induced fetish..It will not go away for me, even if I stopped watching P.I have learned to live with it, embraced it.

If u developed your fetish after watching porn, then it can be erased. If not, I am afraid it is going to remain for the rest of ur life

 

[The Watcher]

I have a foot fetish, I like kissing a woman's feet....Feet is not the only thing I like about women. I had this fetish even before I started watching porn. Since this is not a porn induced fetish..It will not go away for me, even if I stopped watching P.I have learned to live with it, embraced it.

If u developed your fetish after watching porn, then it can be erased. If not, I am afraid it is going to remain for the rest of ur life

I see you are in your day 83, do you still have that fetish ? when you see women in real life do you fantasize them sexually normally or do you still get fetish images about them? do you have anxiety around women ? you got the guts to talk with them ?

 

[anewversion]

I have a foot fetish, I like kissing a woman's feet....Feet is not the only thing I like about women. I had this fetish even before I started watching porn. Since this is not a porn induced fetish..It will not go away for me, even if I stopped watching P.I have learned to live with it, embraced it.

If u developed your fetish after watching porn, then it can be erased. If not, I am afraid it is going to remain for the rest of ur life

I haven't mentioned it yet, but I too have a Foot Fetish. I had this long before porn. My earliest memories are way back when I was about 8. I'm now 36.

However having a fetish doesn't mean we are slaves to pornography or to MB. We can still stay away from porn. A harmless fetish can be shared and embraced within the parameters of a healthy loving relationship. It's only an issue if it takes you out of a healthy reality, makes you binge on porn and causes all sorts of other effects.

I've been wrestling with this problem in my head the last few days as I begin this NOFAP journey.

 

[TIMMY0110]

I see you are in your day 83, do you still have that fetish ?

I still have foot fetish...It's just a liking for feet... Its just like I like kissing it just like breast or hips or pussy. Feet is not the only thing I like, it's the one of many female parts I like. Although, I have this fetish I am not obsessed about it.

However, when I started watching Porn, the issue escalated .....Started I interested in femdom, humiliation porn, mistress slave porn....All these kind of fetishes are gone since nofap...I no longer crave for it.

Coming to liking for women's feet, like @anewversion said A harmlessfetish can be shared and embraced withinthe parameters of a healthy loving relationship...So, as long as feet is not the only thing you are interested in... Its not a problem...

It is very important to note that watching porn can escalate a simple harmless fetish to different and harmful kind of fetishes.

when you see women in real life do you fantasize them sexually normally or do you still get fetish images about them? do you have anxiety around women ? you got the guts to talk with them ?

No...I don't have any sexual fantasy when I see women..And I have no problem is talking to women......I don't introduce myself like "I am so and so, I have foot fetish...Pleasure to meet you"..Becoz, foot fetish is only a small part of me and not the complete part of my sexuality.

I hope I answered your question..If u have any other query then feel free to write back

 

[Deleted Account]

I have a foot fetish, I like kissing a woman's feet....Feet is not the only thing I like about women. I had this fetish even before I started watching porn. Since this is not a porn induced fetish..It will not go away for me, even if I stopped watching P.I have learned to live with it, embraced it.

If u developed your fetish after watching porn, then it can be erased. If not, I am afraid it is going to remain for the rest of ur life

Nothing wrong with liking feet imo. If it is not related to you watching porn and masturbating. Viewing pictures and videos of feet will get you nowhere. If you are in healthy sexual relationship with your partner then I think it is normal to adore her feet.