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My first friday going out after 10 days of nofap

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by createsmyownluck, Jun 21, 2014.

  1. Jun 21, 2014 #1
    createsmyownluck

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    So I have never been a huge party guy, but living in a very fun area of a big city made of almost entirely college students means that if I want to hang out and meet new people, its hard to escape the party scene on the weekends.

    Last night, as I sit in my room with no plans to do anything, I got this incredible urge that I wanted to go out and meet people. So, I started walking around, originally planning to buy some groceries or something. I almost immediately ran into an old friend headed to a frat party where he lived. I asked if I could join him, because I thought it sounded more promising than sitting by myself in my room.

    I had an interesting night, but mostly because I ended up randomly running into about 10 old friends that I had not heard from in a few years. The frat party itself was certainly fun, but as someone who values there health too much to really drink a lot, I felt a little out of place. I talked to some girls, but was usually overtaken by the "frat guy" who swooped into the conversation and kind of took it over. Probably not the best place to start meaningful relationships, but I'm interested to hear what other people think. Can frat parties be used for good in our quest for having meaningful interactions with women, or are they to be avoided? Let me know your thoughts
     
    createsmyownluck, Jun 21, 2014
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  2. Jun 21, 2014 #2
    Changeisgood2014

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    Honestly, having no connection is kind of off.. But to go to a frap party and randomly meet people also very off. If you really want to try going to frat parties to meet girls, then i suggest you look for the "potential" girl.. As in... Go to the parties, however, look for the uncommon ones versus the same old girls. If you happen to see a girl that is uncommon there, then your best bet is that she went with a friend to see what its like.. I think thats potential.
     
    Changeisgood2014, Jun 21, 2014
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  3. Jun 23, 2014 #3
    createsmyownluck

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    yeah, looking for girls who aren't just there for attention was actually somewhat challenging. Which is why I'm wondering if it might be overall better to just talk to girls at gyms/libraries/wherever and "do things the old fashioned way" instead of getting caught up in the bro culture. I have read dating advice saying there are better places to meet girls than at frat parties
     
    createsmyownluck, Jun 23, 2014
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  4. Jul 2, 2014 #4
    Finalfight123

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    Actually its good practice. And its an easy place to find girls. Its not a great place but its not bad for a hook up all depends on what your looking for or maybe a relationship. See the frat dumbasses who get drunk your actually a step ahead of them see the drunks guys sometimes get laid but usually its the guys who drink little to nothing. see when I go to parties I don't drink I just pretend I do or just don't at all.

    Look for the girl who isn't drinking much and just ask her hey you want to get out of here. BAM hook up. Or just talking whatever you want. OH and if a frat guy interrupts just look at the girls and signal with your eyes lets get out of here. Or stay because he has to divert his attention to both so thats like 50 50 or maybe 75 25 but if you give one of the girls 100 of yours they will always choose you over 75.

    But it is harder and different than approaching during the day. I prefer going on during the day just because they aren't wearing as much make up and its easier to see the real them not the drunk or made up or who they want you to think they are just genuinely them. Good luck man hope it helps.
     
    Finalfight123, Jul 2, 2014
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  5. Jul 2, 2014 #5
    Rootbeerdude

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    Humans are hardwired for connection so cheers to you for finding something spontaneous with others and seizing the opportunity! That's awesome!

    I second what FinalFight123 says. You drinking less is great. I was never in a frat, but I could pick up chicks at frat parties. If you are looking for a relationship, then I just wouldn't have expectations.

    By that I mean, have an expectation to have fun and hang out with friends. In that space it won't matter if you don't meet your future wife. You are focusing on you, and what's good for you. The funny thing about living in that space is that you actually ooze confidence, and will have more options of girls. If you don't, then at least you are having fun.

    The worst is to be in an awesome setting, with awesome people, and be utterly depressed because you have expectations of meeting a wonderful woman and having her love you. In that space, even if she walked by - you wouldn't have the confidence to do anything about it.
     
    Rootbeerdude, Jul 2, 2014
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