Hi, im a guy from South america, I am 22 years old, I have a girlfriend, a nice job, and im studying at the university at the same time ( Sorry for my mistakes for writing in English). I found this place from a youtube video, im triying to quit porn because its ruining my life, I masturbate two or three times a day by looking porn. Sometimes I had lost my sexual apetite because of porn, im not enjoying real sex because of it. Also I cant concentrate in my tasks from college and work. I know that I have to stop but its very difficult, because I always found it on twitter or google sites. This is the first time that I talk about this, im very nervous and embarrassed at the same time, im looking for support, and I will try to not disappoint anyone.
My first time talking about this
- Thread starter MrBv23
- Start date
-
- Tags
- help advice try nofap
Glad you’re here man. There’s no need to feel embarrassed here, we’re all struggling. It’s important to see that you’re here now on this form looking to change. It’s tough to admit this kind of thing and i’m proud of you for that. Keep a positive mindset about yourself and what you have in life, a negative mindset will only worsen your mental state. It’ll be tough as it is for all of us but remembering what you’re doing this for is key. Stay strong and stay vigilant!
freshstart211
Fapstronaut
Welcome, glad to have you here!
Yes! i will be grateful if you could gave me some advice!
babyyoda
Fapstronaut
@MrBv23 Sure, happy to share.
- Stay away from all triggers. If you need to quit social media or TV, do it. Avoid computer and phone unless you NEED it.
- Track your progress. Get a small calender or a notepad where you can write down how many times you watched P and MO per day. See if you can make progress. Take it slow! Don't try to do so much all at once.
- Try to stay away from porn, but allow M for now for relief. This will help you ween off P.
- Stay away from toxic stuff you don't need. This can be comment sections, multiplayer video games, etc. Things that stress you out, stay away from it. Stress makes it harder for you to quit something.
- If you can do a few of these things you'll have more clarity and peace. Consume dopamine less such as what I said above for a few weeks. This means things like caffeine, alcohol, video games, TV, social media, phone etc. It's very difficult to quit something if you keep feeding your brain dopamine, which is what we are addicted to. Bringing more balance will help you make better decisions and you'll have less cravings over time.
- Take baby steps to recovery. You don't need to go cold turkey (unless you think that would be helpful). What you need is small changes to aspects of your life. Figure out what you think will be best for you. Work on your body and mind. Take some walks. Meditate, exercise, eat healthy.
- When you are ready, try a 40 day no Porn challenge. In the book Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke, 40 days is the minimum to break away from an addiction like Porn.
Essential reading:
1. Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson
2. Your Brain on Dopamine by Matthew Reed
3. Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke
- Stay away from all triggers. If you need to quit social media or TV, do it. Avoid computer and phone unless you NEED it.
- Track your progress. Get a small calender or a notepad where you can write down how many times you watched P and MO per day. See if you can make progress. Take it slow! Don't try to do so much all at once.
- Try to stay away from porn, but allow M for now for relief. This will help you ween off P.
- Stay away from toxic stuff you don't need. This can be comment sections, multiplayer video games, etc. Things that stress you out, stay away from it. Stress makes it harder for you to quit something.
- If you can do a few of these things you'll have more clarity and peace. Consume dopamine less such as what I said above for a few weeks. This means things like caffeine, alcohol, video games, TV, social media, phone etc. It's very difficult to quit something if you keep feeding your brain dopamine, which is what we are addicted to. Bringing more balance will help you make better decisions and you'll have less cravings over time.
- Take baby steps to recovery. You don't need to go cold turkey (unless you think that would be helpful). What you need is small changes to aspects of your life. Figure out what you think will be best for you. Work on your body and mind. Take some walks. Meditate, exercise, eat healthy.
- When you are ready, try a 40 day no Porn challenge. In the book Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke, 40 days is the minimum to break away from an addiction like Porn.
Essential reading:
1. Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson
2. Your Brain on Dopamine by Matthew Reed
3. Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke
Last edited:
Meshuga
Fapstronaut
1. Go into this with realistic expectations. It's going to be difficult, and you'll likely mess up a lot. You're probably using P to distract yourself from real problems, and when you stop using the distraction, you still have to deal with the problems. So quitting P only solves one of your many problems. Also, your addiction is probably already worse than you think.
2. Journal. That way you have a record of what you did and how you felt leading up to a reset, and you'll have information on how to adjust your approach next time.
3. Exercise. Part of the reason we use P is because it's a big dopamine hit. If you lose that regular supply, parts of your brain are afraid you are literally dying. If you exercise, you'll get a good dopamine hit mixed with a lot of other good stuff that will keep you more sane than if you didn't exercise.
4. Quit social media. Bin all of it. Even if there weren't so many triggers on it, it's still garbage for your brain and bad for your mental health, don't do it.
5. Do whatever it takes. Declare total war, because this is addiction. It does not respond to half measures. Scorched earth is the only way. You're going to think there's some short cut, some easier, less painful way out and there isn't. Total. War.
2. Journal. That way you have a record of what you did and how you felt leading up to a reset, and you'll have information on how to adjust your approach next time.
3. Exercise. Part of the reason we use P is because it's a big dopamine hit. If you lose that regular supply, parts of your brain are afraid you are literally dying. If you exercise, you'll get a good dopamine hit mixed with a lot of other good stuff that will keep you more sane than if you didn't exercise.
4. Quit social media. Bin all of it. Even if there weren't so many triggers on it, it's still garbage for your brain and bad for your mental health, don't do it.
5. Do whatever it takes. Declare total war, because this is addiction. It does not respond to half measures. Scorched earth is the only way. You're going to think there's some short cut, some easier, less painful way out and there isn't. Total. War.