My Great Life on the NoFap Side.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by FinallyHappy97, Jul 29, 2014.

  1. FinallyHappy97

    FinallyHappy97 Fapstronaut

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    I'm officially done. Quitting cold turkey. Fapping is an addiction like drugs and alcohol, there's no good in it, Iv always known this but I always kept lying to myself and denying it, Time for me to face the facts: You cant have a relationship with a girl if you have one with your hand lol, its not going to work. After reading about NoFap a while ago I started limiting myself just to fapping only on Fridays, so I can make it threw the first 6 days, but on Friday all hell breaks lose! and after that I feel pretty bad. (It seems like I forget this feeling because I return to it within the next day/hour!)
    The longest iv ever gone is 21 days and I felt great. I can only imagine how good I could have been if I only went longer!
    My speech improved and I could actually pay attention in class. I want this feeling again, Im also going to quite edging, Edging gives me the same -afterward- feeling as fapping, its just as bad in my opinion, so I'm quitting that to,
    This sites great, and probably one of the best decisions iv ever made, I feel a lot of accountability, Maybe one day I'll be able to help other people. But first I need to help myself, A better life here I come! So Wish me luck! I'll try to write about my experiences I have throughout my challenge.
     
    Last edited: Jul 30, 2014
  2. FinallyHappy97

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    Im already starting to feel the benefits, I have increased energy, and I feel a lot better about my self, I don't feel dirty and depressed I feel alive and happy, my confidence is higher, and iv noticed my attitude towards women is changing, I saw a picture of a girl on facebook the other day and I just took a second to admire her beauty, and not in a sexual way! (it was weird!) I like my new attitude towards life!
     
  3. FinallyHappy97

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    Day 9
    I'm keeping the right attitude, my urges are strong but I have to be stronger, iv been meditating lately, but today iv been having a head ache and have been feeling sickly, I have an empty feeling in my head, I know its my brain trying to trick me into fapping. sex is everywhere, in every tv show, in all magazines, this really is a fight. I'm not gona let it win!
     
  4. FinallyHappy97

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    Day 11
    I'm feeling the benefits, my confidence is sky high, and my attitude towards organization is changing, clothes folded, toe nails clipped, room rearranged and cleaned, etc. while at a restaurant yesterday I flirted with a couple of the waitresses, (im 18 and and kinda hot) ;) so its not creepy lol. I could tell they were interested, I had them laughing and blushing she kept forgetting stuff so I was teasing her, I noticed that I was making eye contact the whole time,
    Usually when I talk to pretty girls I feel like im not good enough and sink down, now I feel like im.. I guess you can say "worthy" of them, so its pretty cool, last night I had some pretty strong urges but I stayed strong, I have an AP partner now so I don't want to let him down.
    I read on an Edgar Cayce website ->
    "Teach children the beauty and sacredness of sex, and how to contain themselves within themselves the readings advise adults that they can relieve stress and regenerate the body by stopping masturbation.6 This view is currently out of fashion, but given the brain chemistry changes that orgasm produces in the reward circuit, it is likely that humanity will have to revisit its faith in the tremendous benefits of frequent masturbation before much longer." <- He's right.

    Also to anybody with anxiety try "Laugh Therapy" its very helpful, basically what you do is stand up, clap your hands (works best with a partner) fake laugh and move around, after about a minute or so you both start to (real laugh) and it becomes pretty hard to stop ;D it feels amazing, who would have ever known, endorphins feel better then dopamine so give it try, you'll definitely have fun. I feel great when I get done.

    Well that's all for today here's the links to what I mentioned:
    http://www.reuniting.info/wisdom/edg...considerations <-Edgar Cayce

    http://www.helpguide.org/life/humor_laughter_health.htm <- Laugh Therapy
     
    Last edited: Sep 28, 2014
  5. FinallyHappy97

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    Day 12,
    I cant believe its been 12 days already woosh, I feel great! and you people under 12 days, here's some motivation why you should keep going:
    Whats been happening to me:
    1. My skin is clearing up at a fast rate and it has a brighter look,
    2. I stand up straight all the time without even thinking about it,
    3. Facial hair is growing faster,
    4. Confidence is higher,
    5. I'm more assertive and clear when I speak,
    6. My reflexes are at the best they've ever been. Like I catch things before they hit the ground and do tricks with random things in the kitchen,
    7. Food taste better, I'm appreciating the beauty of sites and sounds
    8. Cleaning is a priority, working out is a priority, cutting toe nails is a priority etc. (and I don't mind it at all)
    9. My mind is finally under my control, like (when I tell it to shut up it just listens!)
    10. Meditating is a lot easier then it used to be,
    11. I just feel better in general as a person,
    So keep going guys and stay strong!!
    ^Anybody whos been going longer then 12 days can relate to this!
    -Also porn is evil, before NoFap I didn't know what it was like to have real "self love", I had the wrong idea when I was fapping, and now I know whats its like. Its ashame that after all the time I spent searching for answers (on how to change into a better person), I didn't know the answer was just around the corner ... on the no fape side
     
    Last edited: Jul 30, 2014
  6. FinallyHappy97

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    I stoped writing in the journal and made it to 53 days, my life was full of excitement and it was great.. but I relasped on my 53rd day, I didnt have axcess to a computer because of where I was staying, so it was to hard to write journal entrys on a cell phone, so forgive me for not filling you guys in, this time its gona be different Im going to try to write at least twice a week. So anyway after the relaspse I made the dicision to not masturbate on weekdays. So coincidently I only fap on the weekends now, but thats like saying(I only smoke crack on Fridays) lol not cool, not on weekdays is not good enough for me I want to stop for good,
    Writing on here is the best way to start again, so here it goes: the reason I relapsed on my 53rd day was because of some things about me I didnt like,
    Before I had mild social anxiety, since nofap I was having some major social anxiety around males and females and I didnt understand it, I mean this is NoFap I'm not supposed to have any "confidence" issues, Now on day 33 I "DID" make out with a girl and I "DID" have some major focus that i've nevere had in my life before, but I still was pretty upset with that social thing, Then I went to this party and there was some girls there that I wanted to have a conversation with, but I kept choking up and couldn't speak right, then I started nervous rambling and it was really embarresing, I was so upset I went home that night and relapsed, I didnt sign up for this, Immediatly after I relapsed I relized how stupid it was because I felt the addiction back in my system and I wish I can take it back, I also think part of the problem was checking my counter every day, I was doing this for my counter not for me, This needs to be about me not some cute litle green "number of days box", SO DO THIS FOR "YOU" NOT THE COUNTER! im going to quit for good and stay strong. Im done with this fapping issue, its time for me to stop being a punk.
     
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  7. FinallyHappy97

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    I'm geting my life under control,
    -I'm going to start getting up earlier so I can workout before school,
    -I need to get more serious about homework/studying.
    -Learn the guitar and
    -Start eating healthier. Im going to put reminders on my phone to do stuff and try to maintain a daily scedule. I also need to get a girlfriend. -but that'll come in time. I need to focus on me for now.
     
  8. MartinSiilak

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    Good luck on your journey, I hope everything works out for you ;)
    If you want to ask about tips, just send a PM.
     
  9. FinallyHappy97

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    Alright thanks man;)! & good luck to you to!
     
  10. FinallyHappy97

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    Ok its been a week, so far so good. - I'm staying strong and resisting the urge to relapse. I need to remember that there's more to life then PMO. Also to get more out of life I started taking cold showers, Iv even created a counter to help me stay serious, -I once read "To get the most out of life you need to get comfortable with discomfort" this is completely true. And what worse discomfort is there then taking a freezing cold shower? (by choice!) And on the plus side there's a number of physical/mental benefits that come with them. Lol Including weight loss, increased focus, anti-stress agent, etc. So what's the worst that can happen? Im ready to do this. 100 days. No more being a punk.
     
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  11. FinallyHappy97

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    Day 30,
    Oh boy where do I start? Life is good, brain fog is gone, and I can focus. I’ve basically spent the past 30 days reading self-improvement info and meditating. For the most part my confidence is sky high. I’m more serious about learning and school. Things are nothing compared to how they were.
    My quality of life has improved in every aspect. I have SO much more time on my hands. I’ve been taking advantage of the extra time by meditating, exercising, reading, studying etc. I’ve noticed the way I look, dress, speak, and carry myself are different, my hand writings neater, my skins smoother, flirting and talking to girls 10x easier, and they're noticing me more. It’s great. Also, due to the fact I haven’t been checking the reset counter; I got on today and saw it’s been 30 days! Haha time flies, I think checking the counter everyday defeats the true purpose of NoFap, like I said before it should be about YOU not the little green box. I believe that’s why the quality of this streak is better than the first one. This time it’s about me. Luckily I still have the “super-powers” of my first streak. So relapsing doesn’t really destroy everything it’s just a bump in the road. I also want to improve my diet too; I’m going to make that my new project for the week. Also I need to develop a better exercise-routine. I mean I might as well right? I got all this extra testosterone. And to keep my mind in the right place I’m going to increase the time I meditate to 25mins “everyday”. I’m at the point now where I don’t even think about PMO anymore. I’m too busy for that! So anybody out there that’s struggling stay busy! I’ve been reading about the sexual energy transmutation, Mark Queppet talks about, it’s very interesting. I’ll be reading more about this. Also a good quote I saw the other day
    "You can achieve what you want, just stop thinking about it"
    ^I completely agree with that. If you think about it “Quitting PMO is a lot simpler then it seems” All’s you have to do is “Not-do-it” stop thinking about it. Stop thinking about how hard it is to quit. Stop thinking about how hard it is to change. Get off your ass, and do it. Do something about it NOW. Delete your porn collection. Open your curtains. Let the light in and open your eyes. Life is so much greater and has so much more meaning once you break free from this reckless behavior - of what I like to call “momentary self-pleasure” yes, one moment of pleasure. Over a good life. You’re destroying your brain and ruining your life for a moment of self-pleasure. So now’s the time to get serious. Take action now. Stop the reckless behavior, and don’t give in. ^If you can’t do any of these things^ you really don’t want to quit. Its as simple as that. “Don’t think just do.” Remember guys that Life has a lot to offer to you. Don’t be the guy who misses out, “One day your life will flash before your eyes, So make sure it’s worth watching.” Also I highly suggest reading this: http://no-maam.blogspot.com/2004/07/pook-2-pook-mans-advice-to-suffering.html It will change your life
    -Stay Strong.
     
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