My Introduction and Gratitude for Having Me!

jklends · Jan 17, 2019

Hello everyone, my name is Joey. I am new to this community as I am looking to rid myself of the toxicity that is pornography addiction.

A little bit about myself: I am 24, a recent college grad, I have a pet cat, Louis, and I love to play poker. I have been watching porn for probably around 10 or 11 years. I think I was introduced to porn by accident and I steadily became desensitized and started watching hardcore stuff when by the time I was 15. I am embarrassed to say that I am the friend who all of my friends know as "the guy who watches way too much porn". I have tried many times in the past to quit and I finally feel like I am ready to take a full leap of faith.

My previous attempts have been driven by my Christian faith. I am filled with guilt when I break my vows to stop watching porn. I am sickened with myself and I am sick of the cycle that I fall into. But I am finally ready to give this up.

Throughout my life, I have dealt with severe anxiety and depression issues. My anxiety has been present for as long as I can remember. The depression really kicked in as I got older. I was recently hospitalized for depression and spent a few days in an inpatient program at my local hospital. I am beginning to attribute some of these issues to pornography, but I also attribute it to some issues I have had throughout my life, things that are family related and are private to me.

I would like to ask for the tips and tricks that helped you all get through the first 7 days and beyond.

I hope that I am able to overcome this addiction and I know that with the proper guidance and some courage, I will be able to do it.

Andy Dufresne · Jan 18, 2019

Welcome Joey.
Step 1 is admitting the problem - that's a huge step. You've taken it.

Stick around, write a daily journal and follow others.

There's loads of useful material all over the site. If you're sceptical on certain advice, you can ignore it!
Avoid the trap of being a bad boss to yourself and and even worse employee. i.e. beating yourself up really hard for every failure (bad boss) and going off to watch porn anyway (worse employee). Try to be kind to yourself (but still tough) and know this is a long journey, with each day a piece of the bigger puzzle

Willpower is important - but you wouldn't be here if that was enough.

Try to block all porn access (whitelist NoFap first!) and either purposely forget the password so you can't unblock this, or entrust a good friend to keep it from you. That friend should be willing for you to stop talking to them before giving it up. A lot of people don't have this option but sounds like you have friends that already aware of problem?
It's a drastic step, but otherwise you're fighting this with one hand - maybe both - tied behind your back

If there's no porn, worse can scenario is a reset in the first 7 days to fantasy, which is better than to P.
But what is better still is to abstain for a period (my record is 37 days but want to beat it) from porn/mas/orgasm to start and accelerate the healing process.
That'll take some willpower sure, but see it as a fun challenge like running a mile!
And celebrate the little successes - every day porn free is moving you in the right direction

Good luck bud

jklends · Jan 18, 2019

Andy Dufresne said: ↑

Welcome Joey.
Step 1 is admitting the problem - that's a huge step. You've taken it.

Stick around, write a daily journal and follow others.

There's loads of useful material all over the site. If you're sceptical on certain advice, you can ignore it!
Avoid the trap of being a bad boss to yourself and and even worse employee. i.e. beating yourself up really hard for every failure (bad boss) and going off to watch porn anyway (worse employee). Try to be kind to yourself (but still tough) and know this is a long journey, with each day a piece of the bigger puzzle

Willpower is important - but you wouldn't be here if that was enough.

Try to block all porn access (whitelist NoFap first!) and either purposely forget the password so you can't unblock this, or entrust a good friend to keep it from you. That friend should be willing for you to stop talking to them before giving it up. A lot of people don't have this option but sounds like you have friends that already aware of problem?
It's a drastic step, but otherwise you're fighting this with one hand - maybe both - tied behind your back

If there's no porn, worse can scenario is a reset in the first 7 days to fantasy, which is better than to P.
But what is better still is to abstain for a period (my record is 37 days but want to beat it) from porn/mas/orgasm to start and accelerate the healing process.
That'll take some willpower sure, but see it as a fun challenge like running a mile!
And celebrate the little successes - every day porn free is moving you in the right direction

Good luck bud
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Thanks for the words of encouragement! One day at a time and 1% better everyday as I always like to say!

Best of luck to you as well.

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