My last relationship messed sex up for me. Any tips to get back too normal?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Wrots, Jan 2, 2019.

  1. Wrots

    Wrots New Fapstronaut

    I was in a 4 year relationship with my ex and throughout that relationship, 90% of the time we’d have sex, it would end with my “jerking” myself off to cum. I didn’t find anything wrong with this because it was what I was used to and therefore since the sex was still good, I didn’t think much of it. We would have sex for 15/20 minutes then I would make myself cum with masturbation. Now that we broke up and I have other sexual partners, I realized that I can’t cum from sex/oral/handjobs. I’ve had better sex with my new partner than my old partner but I’m now just realizing that she can’t make me cum. We’ve had sex 3 times now and I haven’t cummed once. I just go soft and can’t get hard again after 20 minutes of sex.
    Any tips to help me cum again?
    I’m currently on day 15 of nofap but I did watch porn for like an hour the other day but I didn’t masturbate.(I know I shouldn’t have watched the porn to begin with). I’ve had sex twice between those 15 days and haven’t came. I’m planning on seeing her again in 5 days and I want to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
    Last edited: Jan 3, 2019
  2. 010010010100000101001101

    010010010100000101001101 Fapstronaut

    Give it a few months of no porn and no fapping and you will heal. For now there is nothing you can do. Unless you are willing to use porn and jerking off to foce your body to finish, which is bad idea for obvious reasons. For now make it all about process instead of finish line. Don't have sex, make some love instead. Focus on her, do some Karezza.
  3. liamdance666

    liamdance666 Fapstronaut

    I'm in exactly in the same boat and hope no . fap will correct me!
  4. ClaritySeeker

    ClaritySeeker Fapstronaut

    Stopping Porn is as important if nor more important than stopping Masturbation. You need to rewire your brain not to fantasize about P and then after enough time (usually 90 days) you will be able to have normal sex again. Sometimes it can take more or less time, it all depends on you and how serious you are.
  5. ReclaimedLife

    ReclaimedLife Fapstronaut

    Stop porn
    And learn how to masturbate properly. Your body is used to the high intensity, so you have to calm yourself and learn to masturbate with less intensity and especially less pressure.
    It will take some time to become better, sometimes even months, depending on how long you are used to the high intensity masturbation before.

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