My life is ruined.

Man, I don't know how to help you, but maybe you could try acupuncture. People say it's good for neurological diseases.

 

I know I will be hated for saying this, but according to the latest medical research, masturbation is a healthy, stress-relieving habit. If you felt like you were over-masturbating before, and you feel that these awful symptoms are happening because you completely stopped fapping, maybe, just MAYBE controlled masturbation might be the solution for you. Personally, I am going through the NoFap journey to A. Be HEALTHIER, B. Acquire greater willpower and self-restraint, and C. Be more productive and active. I think that's what we all should be looking after, no matter the means by which we achieve these results. Please don't take this as advice to make you relapse again, but if this really is setting you back on your life and making you miserable, lethargic, and aching, then it would make sense to turn this addiction into a CONTROLLED habit. Just make sure, IF you decide to go there, to A. Set your limit, B. Never look at P again, and C. Make it a temporary releasing habit until you find a partner with whom you could release your sexual urges naturally. Please note that I'm not the best person to take advice from, too, but remember that after all that the most important goal we all want to acquire here is willpower.

 

I can't say I disagree..but it's hard to make it a controlled habit unless you truly are busy with your life. If you've no external motivation to do some work, then making it a controlled habit isn't going to be successful and you'll just get into a never-ending cycle once again(once you break once mental barrier you start thinking maybe p is alright too and so on).

You need to get into a scheduled life again. Take up a job. Enrol in a course on edx/coursera which requires you to dedicate time to it in a proper manner.

 

I think I didn't make my suggestion clear enough though.... I was only suggesting he goes on a controlled M schedule, while still refraining from P. Masturbating without P is, after all, more natural, and I just want to come up with anything to help the guy out, because I really am very disturbed and emotional by how this supposedly positive turn in his life became constant suffering. Besides, going cold turkey on drug and smoking addictions creates very severe withdrawal symptoms, and may also be harmful. It is known, for example, that to stop smoking you have to gradually decrease the amount of nicotine you take in, in order to allow your brain the time to start releasing the stuff once more in the correct doses. Since the NoFap experience is unfortunately lacking in scientific research, we could only compare.

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@saneagain have you told all of this to a doctor before? This may have something to do with the pain, and doctors may finally figure out what's wrong.

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I just know that saneagain's got enough motivation not to go back to how he was before. He's a grad student with a bright future ahead of him, he's trying to make his parents proud, and he only want to alleviate his pain.

But then again...

I just don't know... All I could say is that I'm really trying to help you there buddy, so if that works for you, I'd be extremely relieved, but if it doesn't, just know that everybody in NoFap supports you and shares your pain.

 

It is unlike me, generally, but I second what @Fire Red suggests -- because I agree with both the letter and spirit of his suggestions, which seem to consist of (however tentatively) recommending a gradual/appropriate/multi-pronged response on the one hand and compassion/solidarity on the other (in inverse order of importance).

 

Also try natural foods like
bee pollen (increase sperm)
honey (it acts anabolic and good source for the brain)
Goji berries (organic) good for deplete kidney and adrenal function


Also try NGF food like
Rosemary oil in the hair before sleep

Gingko biloba tea
Gotu kola tea
Fo-ti to regenerate your brain

Try to use water filter (flourite kills brain) and teeth slowly

and try to eliminate grains (bad for the bones)

Increase walking in parks with clear air (pine trees) (polluted air dont help)

 

Your body and your physiology seem to be ok. You are a very intelligent person, the problem is that you are always on survival mode. The fact that you are intelligent means that in a harsh environment that requires craft and patience to survive (like the stone age) you would have been the fittest to stay alive and mate. Our physiology stayed the same but our environment changed and it is because of this that we feel imbalances in our daily lives. Your ancestor would see about 10 people in his lifetime while you can see thousands of them, if you live in a medium city, in one day just by walking down the street for some time. Like it or not, you are the product of alpha males that mated during their time and so you are keen on survival (you carry in your veins the lifeworks of many people) and you have to learn that survival is not a necessity now as it was then (any beta male can mate now). In the end, the answer to your problems is in your hands.
Excuse my poor english.

 

I had to search for a post like this cause I'm confused about the fuck going with my body. I'm just alive but not living. Some symptoms such as burning skin, rashes on the skin, constipation, head pressure, cracking noises in joint etc...
I have reached and still can't function even though I tried to but fail miserably.

 

Depersonalization, anxiety, depression, dizziness/lightheaded, fatigue and weak muscles, tight jaw and neck, pain in my mouth in gums, teeth hurt, I feel constantly heated like I burn from the inside.

You say you suffer from these symptoms, all related with mental health issues. Yet you don't want to maintain visits with a psychologist? Why not? I think finding a good counsellor would be a great step. I have suffered from such issues myself, and it turned out I had to give up weed and even caffeine.

I've just come off a long relapse of pmo. I am suffering from depression feelings, and anxiety, and very low libido. But depersonalisation was linked with others things, not so much pmo. Please do visit a psychologist for your sake.

 

Sounds like you are certainly in need of just sitting down and having a chat with a professional about your situation and state of being. You would be surprised how just getting your mental tourments out of your head and sharing them with another person who's job it is to help you work through them will benefit you. I'm myself a practising psychologist and there's many complex reasons why a person may feel the way you do.

However I will say obstaining from PMO is a stepping stone towards freeing up time and mental space towards building better habbits and hobbies in life. Its not a cure for people struggling and battling with mental health.

 

Are you okay now?

 

Hey. How are you right now??