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My life's in ruins

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by kamado86, Aug 28, 2015.

  1. kamado86

    kamado86 Fapstronaut

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    Hey I'm a 28 year old male. I MOed daily for around ten years which has basically mucked up my nervous systemI believe which makes me agoraphobic and anxious the whole time. Adding on to that I'm a type 1 diabetic of 22 years although I have no complications (thank God) it's another stressor although i think where my nervous system is a wreck I blame my diabetes although before it never bothered me. Adding onto that I have been a compulsive gambler for five years on and off. I'm not In that much debt but do t think it's done my Health any good.

    Basically I don't know what I want from life I'm so down and genuinely don't know what to do or where to turn next.

    Any advice would be appreciated . I'm not looking for sympathy as I know it's mainly self inflicted. But I wish my cognitive function and nervous system would be better. I've been to the docs all tests are fine.
     
  2. Woody4

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    Hey Kamado,

    Trust me on this, exercise. Running/strength training.

    At the begginging you will be so anti about it but once you get going you will not want to stop, I am planning on running a few small marathons next year and then hopefully one day train for the London Marathon. Exercise is so good for the mind and body, is releases feel good chemicals and makes the individual feel amazing. Also I highly recommend cold showers after exercise, once you can jump straight into a cold shower you can train your mind to do anything.

    I find that eating and drinking healthy really benefits the body and mind, all I drink is green tea and water and lots of it and have never felt so good. Eat clean foods no heavily processed sugery crap, whole grains, veg, fruits, fish, meat. You will feel so much better for it.

    If you need any help please feel free to contact me, I would love to help you out and get you in a much better place! :)

    Take care mate. :)
     
  3. This is one of the great questions of life, so I don't think it can be solved easily...but I can understand what it means when you don't have a clue about what to do next, where to go.

    I definitely quote Woody4 and I also suggest you to try leaving your bad habits (running can help) by learning about yourself: what do you really like? Maybe you don't like running as much as swimming, than go for it; this is a simple example to say: try to look around you, I'm sure there are beautiful and healthy things that will inspire you and help you but you have to discover it by yourself... for instance I love cooking so, when I'm a bit depressed, I invite friends over and cook a magnificent meal for them!

    I don't know if all this helped or was off topic...well, I really wish you the best! Take care pal :)

    PS Maybe magnificent is a bit of an exaggeration...let's say I do my best ;)
     
  4. grADD student

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    I think my advice is to understand that the only way we can find where to turn or what to do with life is to have the courage to let life touch us. I used to be paralyzed by the irrational fear that I was going to fail at everything, my wife would leave me, God would reject me and I would die in prison. It was completely irrational. I had absolutely no motivation because I feared that if I moved forward my greatest fears would come true. One of my therapists said to me,
    "So what if all of that happened? Would you die then?" I said, "I'd probably want to". Then they asked me "If all of that did happen, how would you climb out of it?" I said, "Well, I'd have nothing to lose, so I'd just do what I wanted until I found success." My therapist replied, "You can do that right now and save yourself the pain of losing everything".

    It changed my perspective a lot. I got out there are realized it was okay to be hurt a little. I got several jobs and was unhappy, then I found one I liked and 10 years later than I'd hoped, I'm on track to my goal. The moral of the story for me was, fear robs me of the ability to get out there and even find what I want to do. I'll never find motivation until I start doing something--anything productive. Life involves a lot of searching for those who are brave enough to get out there and look. I bet deep down you are brave enough. Good luck!
     
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